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A handy guide to over 40 dating

Updated on August 14, 2013

Catch up on dating at midlife

Rejoining a dating scene? Great idea, because dating over 40 is much easier and effective nowadays than it was 20 years ago. It has a bit different landscape though with development of online dating sites, meeting new dates has become faster, convenient and fun.

With dating online, the mature singles can easily find like-minded people to socialize and flirt online with.

Dating sites for mature singles such as will increase your chances to meet your compatible match online and build a new mature relationship.

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Leisure time of mature people

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5 turn-offs for women

I know that nobody is perfect, everyone has it's good and bad sides, but there are general rules of behavior in public places, on a date that everyone should follow to make a positive first impression.

Some guys whether don't know or simply ignore those rules, but guys we hate when you doing the following things:

  • Tooting your own horn

Some guys are so arrogant, they consider themselves the perfect catch, which is often so wrong.

  • Having modern values

Women like to be looked after, to feel safe and protected. Don't offer to go dutch, don't offer to have sex on a first date, don't run away without walking her to a taxi.

  • Poor sense of humour

Keep your seriousness at work, but with a woman, you should make her laugh till your ribs hurt.

  • Scratching your private parts

Disgusting. This is a huge turn-off. Have you ever seen a woman scratching her parts? Yuck!

  • Lack of ambitions

Having no goals, means your a boring person, no one wants to settle with the guy, who doesn't have anything to achieve in life.

A recipe of ideal acquaintance

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  1. Stay positive whatever happens.
  2. Enjoy communication.
  3. Follow your intuition.
  4. Don't make fast conclusions.


  • 2 single hearts
  • healthy look
  • great mood
  • positive thinking
  • smile

Love Quotes

  • Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. ~ Aristotle
  • Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you. ~ Erich Fromm
  • Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. ~ Lao Tzu
  • A kiss makes the heart young again and wipes out the years. ~ Rupert Brooke
  • There is only one happiness in life - to love and to be loved.~ George Sand
  • There is no remedy for love than to love more.~ Henry David Thoreau

Positive attitude will lead you to the right choice

If you are single over 40, it is not the time to be upset because there are many midlife singles out there. It's time to act, to meet new like-minded people, to explore new options of dating scene, to do something to change your situation, rather than stay at home alone and cry yourself to sleep.

A great way to update your network of contacts is to join a social group or interest club where you can meet other like-minded over 40 singles. Be positive, communicate with other people, share some interesting or awkward stories, make jokes and people will answer back.

Social communication will give you more self-confidence so that when you meet your ideal match you'll be prepared to act.

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7 questions to ruin a first date

Dating at midlife has more advantages, but taking into account that your last date was 20 something years ago, arranging a date at 40 you should think about what to ask and what better mot to ask on a first mature date.

There are tricky questions that can ruin your date right off the bat. There is nothing criminal in asking those tricky questions but Not on your first date. Those questions will be appropriate to ask when you get to know your date a little bit better.

DO NOT ask the following questions:

  1. Why did you got divorce, split up?
  2. Who's fault it was ?
  3. Did you ever cheat on someone?
  4. Have you ever dated several people at the same time?
  5. How many times a week would you like to have sex?
  6. What is your favorite sex position?
  7. Would you date a married person?

I personally think that these questions are too personal and if you don't want to embarrass your date.

it's better to avoid these questions on a first date.

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Compatible Zodiac Signs

Your zodiac sign
Who will calm you
Who will make you happy
With whom you will be happy in marriage
Aries (March 21 - April 19)
Pisces, Sagittarius
Leo, Aquarius
Cancer, Libra
Taurus (April 20 - May 20)
Aries, Capricorn
Virgo, Pisces
Leo, Scorpio
Gemini (May 21 - June 21)
Taurus, Aquarius
Libra, Aries
Virgo, Sagittarius
Cancer (June 22 - July 22)
Gemini, Pisces
Scorpio, Taurus
Libra, Capricorn
Leo (July 23 - August 22)
Cancer, Aries
Sagittarius, Gemini
Scorpio, Aquarius
Virgo (August 23 - September 22)
Leo, Taurus
Capricorn, Cancer
Sagittarius, Pisces
Libra (September 23 - October 22)
Virgo, Gemini
Aquarius, Leo
Capricorn, Aries
Scorpio (October 23 - November 21)
Libra, Cancer
Pisces, Virgo
Aquarius, Taurus
Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)
Scorpio, Leo
Aries, Libra
Pisces, Gemini
Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)
Sagittarius, Virgo
Taurus, Scorpio
Aries, Cancer
Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)
Capricorn, Libra
Gemini, Sagittarius
Taurus, Leo
Pisces (February 19 - March 20)
Aquarius, Scorpio
Cancer, Capricorn
Gemini, Virgo

Midlife dating?!!

Many single over 40 doubt whether to start dating again or not? In spite of all doubts I'm sure that dating at midlife can be better than in 20's. Do you know why?

First, you know who you are, what type of people you attracted to, you gained some life experience that will help you to make your mature dating more successful and enjoyable.

Second, most people spend their youth on education, making a career, building a happy marriage,bringing up children, but if something did not work out according to your plan well it's ok.

Being single in your 40s means to have a second chance to catch up on dating, fun and romance. Now when kids are grown up, you have a decent job, your own house you're free to do whatever you want, to turn your dreams.

There are a lot of new things to be explored in midlife dating, stop wasting your precious time and focus on your mature love journey.

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Top 7 places to meet mature women

Many people especially at midlife find it difficult to behave natural and relax on a first date.

The importance of the first date is enormous, because a man or a woman want to make the best impression on his or her date which is unreal if you nervous and say inappropriate things.

So where midlife singles can meet other like-minded single? It's quite a question, isn't it?

Love affairs at work? No, bad idea. Date with your doctor or mailman even worse.

It is obvious that men and women go to look for new encounters to different places, maybe if they know better where mature singles like to unwind they will meet their perfect match faster.

We've interviewed 100 over 40 men and women and made a list of places where single midlife men and women can be found.

Places to meet midlife women

1. At grocery store

Women go to groceries every day, it is the most women populated places ever. Ask a question, make a comment about some product she's going to buy, simply clever.

2. In the shop sale

Woman are crazy about sales. If you are looking for a stylish mate visit one of this sales, you don't have to buy anything, just watch women picking clothes, if you won't meet someone to go on a date with, you'll have fun for sure.

3. At your married friends house

A lot of married people have single friends and co-workers from both sides, so don't refuse to go to your married friends party, who knows who you can find there.

4. At park

Single midlife people have a tendency to have pets, dogs or cats in terms not to feel lonely. Pets naturally are great friends, so walking with your dog look around maybe there is a nice lady playing with her dog out there, or maybe your dog will bring you to your future mate.

5. At classes

Single over 40 women are tend to fill the vacuum and accomplish new goals taking classes.

Attend any class on cooking, photography, ceramics or whatever else sounds engaging, and you can be sure that the majority of the class will be female. You'll feel more engaged in social life, will gain new experience and maybe will find your other half.

6. At church

Next time you attend a worship, look around, maybe you've been missing your perfect lady two sits behind you all these years. Meeting someone who shares your values by getting involved at your preferred house of worship is a wonderful beginning on a new relationship.

7. Online

Online dating has captivated modern society. For many mature single having a profile at a few dating site is a every day thing. Where else you can meet thousands of new like-minded people every day. Online dating provides you with hundreds of compatible matches, and will open new horizons in your dating world.

Take a chance.

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    • AmandaJon profile imageAUTHOR

      Amanda Jones 

      5 years ago

      Hi Dora, thank you for advice, I will check my spelling more careful next time, hope you still enjoy my articles. I'm glad I have a follower, who can speak her mind honestly, your comments are very helpful for me.

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      Dora Weithers 

      5 years ago from The Caribbean

      Amanda, you give great advice! As one writing student to another, I would advice you to do some more editing on spelling etc. before you publish. We are very helpful here in this HubPages Community. Looking forward to lots more from you.


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