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Addiction And Relationships

Updated on November 24, 2010

Living With Addiction

In this day and age, many people find it hard just adjusting to a new relationship, never less living with someone that has an addiction.

Addiction and relationships are running high in our society these days and I see no end in site. It just seems to get worse as each year passes.

Why do I say this? The simple reason is that in our world today, we are experiencing and living in one more depression like back in the 1930s and see no let up in the future.

This is one of the main reason so many people may be turning to drugs or alcohol to try to ease the pain of the financial worries. Just let me tell you, this is not the solution to your problems.

By turning to drugs and alcohol it just makes things worse with your relationships and will make you feel as if you will never get your head above water.

Both Share An Addiction

There are so many couples in our world that possibly both share an addition whether it be drugs or alcohol or in some cases both.

This is by far an unhealthy relationship when both are addicted. How can a family even survive or live each day with a clear mind when they share their own misery?

It is bad enough when one of the two has an addiction, but when you have two suffering from similar addictions it will never work in the end. There may very well be a mass majority of these people that fight and argue continuously not really even knowing why they are even arguing. The addiction is mostly talking and acting in their behalf.

When there are two addicted to drugs or alcohol and they decide that they want to surrender to there demons, they both must do it together and share there road to recovery as they shared their addiction together.

It will never work if only one person decides to quit drinking or using drugs. The temptation of watching and knowing your partner is still using or drinking alcohol will have such a negative effect on you finding your sobriety and I can see it never working. You must do this change in life as a team effort and help each other throughout the days and weeks and years that go by.

You must give each other moral support and praise each other every day you make it through one more sober day.


Finding Sobriety Together

If you work together and truly want to become clean and sober, then finding sobriety together is 100 % a go.

Learn to comfort each other, because both of you will definitely need lots of love and support in order to get through and overcome your addiction together.

If the two of you really want to try to become clean and sober again, you must sit down and take a good hard look at your life and were your lives will be in the upcoming years. If you are totally honest with each other, you will realize that your life may well be shortened due to your substance abuse and addiction and you both will miss out on what true life has to offer.

I don't think anyone wants to live a short life and possibly becoming ill due to your addiction, when all of this can be changed if you have the willpower and the desire to do so..


Believe in Yourselves

Alcoholism In A Family

In many cases only one spouse or partner has an addiction, but they are not the only one suffering with this. Their spouse is suffering as well with watching, preaching, begging and praying for their spouse to become clean and sober again.

When there is alcoholism in a family who really suffers?

When one person is addicted and the other is sober and wants the addicted to give it up is when the problems begin in most cases.

The person that is addicted to drugs or alcohol really doesn't want to hear about quitting drinking or stop using. This makes for a rough relationship as well with continuous arguing over quitting.

Always remember what you are doing to yourself along with ruining your relationship, your family and cutting your life short all due to an avoidable addiction.

Is it really worth the pain and suffering you put yourself and others through because you are not able to surrender to your addiction?

SUMMARY

If you or your spouse or the both of you have an addiction problem, talk to each other and make plans to seek Professional Help so that the two of you can lead a long, healthy and happy life together.

If you set your mind to it and focus on having a Positive Attitude along with a strong desire and willingness to come clean, then you are on your way to finding sobriety.

With Sobriety comes Happiness, Fulfillment and Love for one another. it is a totally different feeling then when you are high or drunk together. You will see things in a all together different way. The way that would never be seen being addicted.

So, have that chat between the two of you and just surrender to your demons, ask for help, work together as a team and grasp the life of Sobriety together and start enjoying your lives.



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