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Updated on December 23, 2011

The cat is out the bag

A Consumer Warning about online sites

Are you on the web seeking to find casual encounters, sex with no strings attached or other similar sites? If you are, a word of warning, what you seek maybe not what you get, it can get pretty dicey out there. I would tell you, don't participate in this type of sex search at all, that it will cost you money and there are safety issues, but if you are going to do it anyway, here are few things you should know.

There are thousands of sites on the web with the promise of casual meetings of new and exciting people from your area. All you have to do is fill out this form to get started. The problem is that the form you fill out is for one thing; get you on a mailing list.

You see, these sites don't expect everyone that visits their site to sign up. What they do is, get your information and add you to an Opt in mailing list, which they sell. Once you visit one of these sites, even if you don't subscribe expect to junk email for several months. The email look like this: fm Lisa msg. check out my pix. What this is, is other websites that have bought your name from the person you signed into the first time. They are trying to get you to visit their site, then the cycle starts again. Every time you fill out a form, it's sold, and then it just repeats.

The next thing to be aware of is membership fees. These sites will tell you that they have lots of women in your area just waiting to meet you. They will post pictures of women with locations to entice you to subscribe. In reality, a lot of the women are just props, and don't even exist in your area. They will also use women from months ago to make it seem like there are a lot more women on their site than they actually have. A lot of these women or men, haven't been on line in months, and will probably never be there again. They will offer you a trial offer of anywhere from .99c to $1.99 to get you to sign up. If take this free trial, remember to read the fine print.

A lot of these sites will hide the fact that if you don't cancel by a certain day then you will be billed the full amount for whatever they say. Once the billing starts, it can be billed monthly or yearly, if it is monthly beware that getting it stopped can be very difficult to say the least.

At no time them give them you bank debit card number. Most debit cards don't have the same protections as a regular visa or master card. If you pay by credit card you allow yourself to dispute charges with the credit card company on any unauthorized charges. This may be the only way to having the billing stopped in many instances.

Another thing to remember is that if you are attached and fearful of having your spouse finding out about what you are doing beware. The email address that you give when you sign up is the address that all the correspondence will go to. If you are playing this game, get a different email that only you know the password to. Learn how to erase cookies and beware of hidden programs that some of these sites load onto your computer.

The sites are often full of malware or tracking cookies that keep tract of the places that you go, and then these people will gather this information to sell to internet partners. If you think you have been infected, the way to tell is from strange emails appearing that doesn’t appear in , and then you need to delete these from your system. To do this you will have to go into your operating system, find the cookie file and delete each one individually.

In closing, please be careful out there. Don't ever meet someone in a private place the first time you meet. Pick a public spot somewhere there will be plenty of people around. You never know what types of predators are out there.

If you are married and have kids doing this, don't. Seek counseling and do what you can do to save your marriage, if you can, for your kids sake.


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      dev 5 years ago

      im single and a dad i work away and have kids most weekends so these sites seemed to be an answer but after looking there seems something emoral . Besides any woman looking like the ones on these sites are taken or not of sound mind after a 9 years and being stabed in the back why would i trust some nutter .

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      Azlynn 7 years ago from Gisborne, New Zealand

      I don't visit sites like these mentioned either. But I, too was surprised at some of the harsh feedback. I found your article very informative for those who do visit sites like these. In addition, I feel everyone has the right to live their lives as they please as long as it is between consenting adults. Yes, perhaps it is wrong for married people to seek out these encounters, but who are we to judge? Your article was taken as intended, by me. Regardless of others judgments, there are many who utilize sites like these and everyone deserves to know what to expect! Kudos to you!

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      Dateblogger 7 years ago

      I have had mixed experiences on such sites - I get bombarded with profiles and tempting suggestive emails as a registered unpaid member, as soon as I open my wallet, the emails dry up...coincidence?

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      Jnich2 7 years ago

      I'm kind of surprised at the flack you caught on this. I mean to me you article seems to discourage the use of these sites. One thing you did leave out is that most of these sites advertise as a great way to hook (not hock) up and then advertise to women as if they are a legitimate dating site.

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      pkih 7 years ago

      people who use sex sites are sick, i came onto this page on stumble and it angred me that you never said just don't fucking use them

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      AmeCam 7 years ago

      the truth is that there are quite less women on any dating sites. 1 woman vs 100 wmen if I may say. Also, there are countless fake profiles on any site even on Match. The priority is to how to prove a user is what he.she is.

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      Right Black 7 years ago from Huntington Beach, California

      R.Cochran, interesting hub. I was hoping that somewhere in this hub you would have told the reader not to participate in this type of activity, especially if married. Instead of that you taught them how to hide their infidelity. For those of you who are married and doing this, stop, you marriage is worth much more than a one night hock up. If it is not, do your spouse and yourself a favor, get help.