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How Horoscopes and Birth Order May Affect your Dating Personality

Updated on October 1, 2010

How do you decide who you are going to date? How do you decide if things are going well with someone that you’ve just started dating? Hopefully you listen to your gut instinct and the advice of the loved ones that you really trust. But there’s a good chance that you also look at other factors as well – factors that may seem to be written into the stars.

For example, you may consider your horoscope when it comes to dating. You may use this information to decide who you’ll date, predict when a good time is for dating or get a better sense of long-term compatibility with someone that you’re starting to like.

Another thing you may consider is birth order Perhaps you only date people who have the same place in the family lineup as you do. Or conversely, perhaps you only date people who complement you with a different spot in the birth order of their families.

Does it make sense to use these tools when dating?

Reading Into Your Horoscope

Many people rely on information from their horoscopes to help dictate their dating lives. If you’ve ever read a horoscope that suggested love was going to go well for you this month and got a little flutter in your heart filled with hope then you can relate a little bit to one of those people. Or perhaps you’re more serious about horoscopes and actually visit psychics and read your tarot cards and all of that.

I think that relying on your horoscope to determine when a good time to date is doesn’t make a whole lot of sense for most people. There are so many things going on in life most of the time that it just doesn’t make sense to use a horoscope calendar to dictate good and bad dating times.

However, a horoscope can be helpful to you when it comes to dating. It can give you some insight into the general personality of someone that you’re considering dating, although this is much more likely to be accurate if you have detailed horoscope information and not just the person’s main sign. Remember, however, that many factors influence personality and their horoscope sign is just one of those possible factors.

I would say that a horoscope can be a nice tool to use for getting a read on your own feelings about a person. For example, if you read that the person’s sign indicates that they are stubborn and you find yourself nodding in agreement then that’s a clue that this is a personality trait in them that stands out to you and you need to think about that. I don’t, however, believe that a horoscope should be used by itself as a method of determining who or when to date.

What do you think?

Dating and Birth Order

In contrast, I believe that birth order can be a great predictor of how well things are going to work out in a relationship between two people. Birth order plays a really important role in the formation of the personality. You certainly have to realize that all families are different and that people can be very different from what you would predict based on their birth order. Nevertheless, those people tend to be the exceptions to the rule and there are general rules about birth order that I believe you can rely on when guessing what someone may be like.

Many different factors affect your personality but I do think that birth order is a major determinant. I believe that oldest children have a general tendency to act a certain way. They’re responsible, driven, care-taking, independent, etc. They play the role of leader to their younger siblings and tend to have more responsibilities at a younger age because of that. Youngest children also share some basic traits; impulsivity, persistence and a love for affection due in large part to the fact that they’ve received a lot of help and attention from their older siblings over the years. It doesn’t hold true in all instances, but birth order is a good indicator of someone’s very general personality traits.

Over time, I believe that you can figure out which birth order types you tend to get along with best. For example, as an oldest child, I tend to have a lot in common with other eldests. We “get” each other. I do sometimes have more fun with youngest children and middle children because they tend to have an adventurous and humorous side that has developed over the years. However, I tend to get too involved in care-taking of people who are younger children in their family so relationships with eldests work best for me.

This isn’t to say that the oldest in the family should always date oldests. I think it’s something that you have to figure out for yourself. And even then, I do think that you should branch out and take chances on people who aren’t necessarily the birth order you generally tend to get along with.

Do you date people who are the same or a different birth order from what you are?

Horoscopes, Birth Order and Other Tools for Dating

I think that there are tons of tools like this that you can use to get a good sense of who you might want to date and how you’re feeling about a relationship. However, I think that they’re only guides to help you get a read on your own true feelings about the situation. I don’t think that they should determine your feelings or that you should read too much into them without checking in with yourself about what you feel.


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    Rocky 3 years ago

    That's a mor-kbleader. Great thinking!

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    Paula 3 years ago

    Nice post. I think that developing a brand peoitnalsry and staying consistent with that is so important. People get too caught up in thinking about how they need to sound on social media. While it is certainly good to keep that in mind, I find it is best to relax and just be yourself with it. People want something that is valuable but also relateable.

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    Susan Haze 7 years ago from Sunny Florida

    Interesting concept, to use your horoscope to help determine who to date. I am a fist born who married the last born. Somehow it works. Creat hub.

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    Vernon Bradley 7 years ago from Yucaipa, California

    Thanks for the useful information. I like your simple straight forward approach to topics that could get a little nutty and crazy or lengthy in writing about them. Even for myself, it is good information to look at in hindsite and who knows what the future holds. I guess I could check my "horror" scope! I am a Leo and I married two Libra's--birthdays three days apart. Am I nuts? I'm not up on astrology so I don't know yet. I am a middle child. I mean really really middle. Could not be more middle almost to the day!! And I married a youngest which I was for a long time and a next to the youngest which I also was for awhile.

    I'm not a big fan of astrology, but it seems to me that there is some truths there. I sat next to Linda Goodman on an airplane coming from Pittsburgh to Los Angeles in 1968 when she was returning from the publisher with her gold leaf copy of her book, Sun Signs. She was very cordial and gave me dates to avoid for the coming year. I was terrified to look at those dates lest I get stuck inside my apartment and afraid to go about life on those days! She told me some pretty accurate information about myself when I was born just based on the date and time, etc. At first, I poopooed her information, because at the time there were some things about the first nine months of my life that I did not know yet. When I found them out, I remembered immediately what she had told me and was a little amazed and stunned.

    So, another good hub there, Kathryn! Gotta make sure I spell you name correctly. I had to check. Take care


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    India Arnold 7 years ago from Northern, California

    Lots of good information here. As a virgo I am impressed with your accuracy and direct thoughts. I enjoyed reading how to define some things within a relationship and how to stay away from those that may not be the best for me. Appreciate you sharing your knowledge.

    ~Always choose love~


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    Dallas W Thompson 7 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

    "Stubborn" can be an asset in terms of personality. Our personality strengths are also are "liabilities." The wisdom is to be able to adjust in the dynamics of life. An example: "loyalty" is generally considered a "good" personality trait. However, if you are loyal to a friend who is not "good" for you, it may be detrimental to your well-being... One must strive for the dynamic process of "balance..." Notwithstanding your date of birth! I am a Scorpio! Yep, stubborn...!

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    msorensson 7 years ago

    Thank you. I enjoyed the hub, Kathryn. A great number of factors affect our choices, yes. I think this is highly dependent on maturity, not necessarily age.