How to Save Your Marriage while a Divorce Is in Progress
Marriage is a union between two consented individuals who decide to tie the knot and stay together under the same roof. However, it is a challenge to keep each other company and have a smiling face all the time; especially with the daily hustle bustle of life and the challenges it throws at each one of us.
With a chaotic life we all lead, spending over 8-10 hours at work; chances are that, at times, the most valuable relationship in our life starts going down the dungeon and our self-pride prevents it from saving it.
Relationships start to drift apart, paperwork for divorce is filed, and our busy schedule avoids us to come to a meeting point where we could meet and talk while keeping our egos aside.
It is never too late to repair things if there is a willingness from both sides.
There are some basic steps to help save your marriage while a divorce is in progress.
This is the most powerful tool in your relationship. A couple has to learn to talk and listen to each other.
Let your better half know what is going on in your life. Talk about, how your work is progressing, your co-workers and narrate any instances that happened in your day. Ask questions about their life and work. Keep the candle of conversation burning between each other, and do not lose interest in it.
This exchanging of information can lead to opening up of any type of hiccups a person has about their partner, and will lead to discussions.
Believe in your better half. If he has a story to say about why he stayed up late at work, or you happened to meet him at a restaurant with someone. Hear him out. Being suspicious can always hurts the affair, and it usually leads to annoyance or irritability in a relationship where it can cause the couple to drift apart.
As the old saying goes, “Laughter is the Best Medicine” When things get awkward between a couple, laughter saves the moment.
Use humor to tackle negative emotions, and you will see how the partner snaps out of an argument. There could also be cases when the better half is not in a mood to smile, and would ask to be left alone, grant it since; this space is needed.
Appreciation for each other is mandatory under all circumstances since; it helps maintain your relationship. Marriage is an institution where dis-respectfulness towards each other, can ruin things. Respect your partner’s likings, tastes, and thoughts. Forcing the accomplice to like your tastes will not be appreciated much longer. As the proverb goes, “Opposites Attract.” Even if the couple has different tastes or likings, respecting each other will give a positive route to your relationship, which in turn can help make your marriage work.
Spending time with each other by a small get-away is healthy for the couple’s mind and body. Being away from home, will help them reflect on the vows they made to each other, and the good times they shared with each other. It will not only rejuvenate them with a different surrounding, but also help lighten the mood as away from the daily pressures of work. This will lead to an ecstasy, and help save your marriage.
Saying, “I Do” is easy, but the actual journey begins thereafter. To make a marriage work, both partners have to be sincere and diligent towards it. Follow the above guidelines from the day you exchange your vows and never will a couple experience frictions in their marriage that they will be dragging it to the courthouse.
My Friend, Janine has some amazing tips for each couple to abide by to help make their marriage as solid as platinum and last for 50 years!
- Tips to Have a Healthy Marriage and Stay Married for Fifty Plus Years
This article marks my 50th Hub article and I wrote it about tips to have a happy and healthy marriage for 50 plus years.