Is dating slowly dying and soon to be EXTINCT?
YOU MEET A GUY AT SCHOOL...He talks to you everyday after your Algebra class. After a few weeks he asks you for your phone number and tells you he will call you on Thursday. You anxiously wait for That day to approach. Finally, Thursday is here. You are so excited . He calls and plans to take you to a movie for the upcoming weekend you accept! You then anticiapate the way the date will begin. The predate anticipation is so intense and you cannot wait for the date!
Finally, the day arrives for your date, you have a great morning of cleaning your room and squeeze in a workout to burn off some of your nerves. After burning 385 calories you are starving and make a crisp green salad and grab a tall cold glass of water, you jump in the shower, shave your legs, almost cutting a huge gouge in your knee, Letting your hair air dry you decide to polish off that stack of homework you have piling up.
Next, you pick out your outfit for the evening. After trying at least 20 different tops you finally find an awesome blouse with your best fitting jeans, Now, hair and make-up! Oh yea let's touch up your nails!
There is one hour until he arrives. I will work on my crossword puzzle from this morning to keep me busyuntil he arrives. Finally. The doorbell ring, he is here. OMG, I greet him at the door and he welcomes me with a small bouquet of flowers. My heart is pounding. I put the flowers in a face and we go off to the movies.....
Ok, get the picture. The entire process of dating, the pre-date, all the anticipation and excitement is the best part of dating, Sadly, boys are not asking girls on dates, they do not phone them on there home phone, they text. On there wireless phone. Also, most boys do not even walk up to the door and meet the girls parents. It is totally insane. Or nowadays, kids just hook up for the night, which is started by an app!
In summary, it's so sad that courting and dating have gone to the wayside. Sex is a "hook-up" or you have a friend with benefits! Who is to blame. Society, technology, parental guidance to lack of parental guidance.
If you are single and reading this, lets start dating again! It doesn't have to be expensive, start with a coffee date, a hike or a walk in the park. If you are a parent of a teenager encourage him to stop playing video games and go ask a girl out for ice cream!
LETS BRING DATING BACK!
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The new rules for dating, sex and sex
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It's not only a change for young people either. I was widowed a year ago after 34 yrs. of being married, and 5 yrs. of dating the same guy. I had one short romance before that. Now I'm not ready for a relationship yet, but would like to go out and have some companionship. Single women I know go on dating sites, and the men seem to want to have sex the first time they meet. I can't even imagine that, not knowing a person or taking any time to see if you have anything in common. I have a son in his mid 20's, and he tells me there's no such thing as "dating" anymore. Also, I don't see young people caring about being half a couple anymore, they are more focused on careers and other interests. If they do settle down, it's in their 30's, usually after they have a child, and then they buy a house right away, usually juggling that with a wedding somewhere in between. Divorce comes about 5 yrs. later, because they jumped into all the older, traditional things in different order, and realize they have nothing in common.
I'm afraid dating is a tradition that is dying. Not just among young people, but among people of all ages.
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Thanks for your perspective. It's good to know. I guess I am experiencing a "generation gap"' between me and my daughters. My daughters are 19 & 21 and they are the ones telling me they want to go on dates. I guess the relationship timeline could be Courting, Dating, Hooking Up.......that's again for your prespective♥️
Each year over 2.3 million weddings take place in the U.S. Odds are most of those couples did go out on dates before their big day!
Most adults who are using online dating websites routinely go out on dates. I suspect where teenagers live and the type of person (they're attracted to) may have some effect on their dating experience.
Just about any weekend where there is a major movie release you're still bound to find teenage couples at movies. The same holds true for beaches in the summer, or at bowling alleys. There are still teenage couples!
Many teens as we speak are preparing to go to high school proms!
The only way dating disappears is if both parties decide to forgo it. Both people have to decide to "hookup" for a hookup to take place.
Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
We get to choose who we spend our time with.
You have a say in (your) dating life plays out by sticking to your rules.
Trust me every weekend adults are in restaurants, nightclubs, going to see plays and concerts, movies, booking hotels for getaways and so on.
That's not to say couples aren't having sex sooner than later but the dating aspect will never die between those who are genuinely interested in one another. If it did a lot of businesses would be in trouble.
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