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Keeping the fire burning and love alive in a relationship

Updated on January 31, 2015

Imagine and think about the times when you are just dating and you are anticipating the times you are going to meet him or her, you are so excited that you are planning what to wear in advance and what perfume will you choose this time and what does he/she is expecting you to do etc? True love lasts and stand the tests of times, but you may wonder how do they manage do love each other for so many years and don’t get bored? What are the secrets to good and lasting relationships, -- keeping the love alive and fire burning in a relationship. According to research, the reason many relationships last is to always keep the fire burning in it.

Some believe that romance should just come naturally, and if it doesn’t, or if the original closeness that existed in a relationship starts to subside, it means that something is wrong. Nothing is further from the truth. Keeping love alive requires time, attention and the willingness to keep things fresh and learn how to constantly reconnect. Here are some steps that will help us reconnect with our partners, and keep the love alive.

Say the magic word from time to time:

  • I love you -- speaks a volume and I like that you look good and sexy for me all through the years and then kiss them in the cheeks or lips whatever you like
  • Say thanks for the little things your partner do to you, "Thank you for being here always for me".
  • Always say your endearments like a term which always reminds you of her sweet qualities say, my “sweetcake” or "honey pie", my "ONLY"

Maintain your physical looks

  • Always look the best for your sweetheart, If you are the woman, always look sexy for your darling, and don’t forget to make yourself beautiful always and wear sexy clothes plus have confidence always, remember the times when you are still in initial stage of relationships and you always want to dress best for your loved one.And if you are the man, dress always to impress your loved one.

Avoid boredom

  • Always give a room for each other to avoid boredom, always have the element of like missing each other, don’t always join your husband /wife wherever he would like to go, stop following them wherever they go or you should always go together
  • Let each other have their own time. Encourage your partner to have a life of their own to develop their own hobby. If your husband want to have a time for his friends let him have his own time as well as for the women too
  • Have your own life, with your sets of friends and enjoy time with friends, once in a while

Regular sexual intimacy

  • Always have time for sexual intimacy. Have a regular sexual intimacy or if you cant do that anymore, be romantic in gestures

Avoid routines

  • Say every weekend think of something you will do together, hire a babysitter if you have children, or go to a dinner date then after one week, drive around to a friends house, or you can engage in a sports together as a team

Continue to look at the person and treat them like the time when you first met them

Set your expectations in line with the persons objective in your relationship too. If you expected him to be this loving, but he is not really that kind of lover, then he might love you but not the way you want it to be, try to talk to him about your expectations.

Always support them in their endeavor and when they are talking to you, try also to listen to them and give positive feedback and advise etc. When the other one is talking lend them your ear wholeheartedly, and make them feel that they are the most important person in the world too

For the women, remember the scents, sounds and taste, be always smelling good, good music to set the mood always and always have the good sense of taste in cooking for the man you love as well

Keep in touch, the power of touching, massaging, sending naughty texts during the day, or anything to make each other excited and setting up the mood.

Treat each other like the king and queen themselves, always have a time out so that you can think properly too specially of things are not quite well at times.

Thanks for reading this hub, and may you have an enduring and the love that continually burn between you and your loved one.


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      6 years ago

      Good reminders of how to keep the fire burning in relationships for everyone in marriage or involved in a long term commitment. It is always great to hear new insights on and views of others to further enrich our lives and living with each other.

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      6 years ago

      Greetings! I've been reading your blog for a long time now and finally got the bravery to go ahead and give you a shout out from Houston Texas! Just wanted to tell you keep up the great job!

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      Lita C. Malicdem 

      8 years ago from Philippines

      Bringing your love relationship with continuing fervor, of love, of respect, and intimacy- this is great! Wonderful tips to ponder upon by anyone- loveless. LOL! Thanks!

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      Cathy Nerujen 

      9 years ago from Edge of Reality and Known Space

      I like this, some nice advice for people about keeping the fire burning in a relationship. Great hub!


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