Love to Murder - Women Getting out of Domestic Abuse
Love Is a Good Thing
Love is always a wonderful thing. Millions of people experience love and have committed their lives to lifelong faithful partners. But not all of us experience the sweet flow of honey that love brings. Some of us will be heartbroken and will experience the bitter side of love when it moves from love to hate and possible murder.
There are many couples worldwide who have had to go through the terrible experience of relationships that have moved from love physical abuse. Even though domestic abuse happens on both sides of the fence, meaning both men and women suffer from domestic abuse. It is the women who have had the worst and most experiences as it relates to domestic abuse especially the physical aspects of it.
Many women have been beaten and battered by the same hands that have hugged, cared for and protected them. They have suffered lifelong trauma which some will simply never get over. This domestic physical abuse is normally vetted out by their male counterparts for various reasons. We will look at some of the reasons later on in this article. But what people should always realize is that all relationships are not carved in stone and it is no different than having an investment in a bank. All relationships are a kind of Investment
Relationship Is An Investment
There is no doubt that many people give there all in relationships and have invested years in the union. Some have invested money, good support and everything which should be an automatic attribute of having a healthy relationship. They make plans to be with the person they invest in until death do them part. And I mean literally till death do them part. But people who decide to share their existence in a very personal way with someone should understand that they have begun an investment. But just like you would take a million dollars and invest in stocks and bonds and for some reason you lost money in that investment, you can lose in a relationship investment. You just weigh your pros and cons and realize that the investment is not a one hundred percent secure return and you may end up losing on that investment. All investments involves some amount of risk no matter how small or how large. Point and case: Prepare to win and prepare to loose
Signs Physical Abuse Is About To Start
Many people who suffer from domestic abuse fail to see certain signs which are pathways of what really is to come. The fact is that some people refuse to see the signs because they just cannot fathom that their nice angel has become or is becoming Lucifer’s right hand man or woman. So what are the signs that domestic abuse is about to start?
1.There is the verbal assault beginning.
The verbal assault can be from belittling the other person to constant cursing. The spouse may begin to have a problem with and everything you do. The verbal assaults will begin from mild to severe in a short time.
2. Constant Anger.
Is another sign that domestic physical abuse is in the pipeline. You cannot live with a person who will be constantly angry at you for no reason or for every simple thing you do. Don’t wait until he changes green. Get out while he is still human.
3. He raises his Hand to hit you.
What other greater sign is there. A woman who has a spouse who raises his hand to hit her and then withdraws and tries to cuddle his way back into your goodness should be avoided like poison. If he raises his hand at you and decided that he isn’t going to hit you or pleads to you and tell you it was a mistake, wasn’t thinking straight or he was angry. Chances are that he will raise that hand again and this time it will come down on you.
Why Some Men Physically Abuse Their Women
When the domestic physical abuse starts, it will be like a nightmare which you simply cannot wake from. Women cannot believe that their knight in shining armor has become this demonic being they no longer know. There is absolutely no justification for men physically abusing women to the point where they actually take the woman’s life. But here are the reasons why men harm their spouses.
1. Women Are Their Property
There are some men who still believe that women are their property and not their partner and as such they treat them like they own them. They will say and do just about anything they believe they have the right to say or do without any remorse. This kind of thinking is primitive and clearly shows that some men are still neanderthals and have not evolved to intelligent beings.
2. The Woman Wants To End the Relationship
Men can’t handle rejection, especially if they believe that they have invested their time and money into a relationship and the woman decided that she wants out as there are better prospects ahead, fallen out of love, or discovers that the man is a no good two timer. The man may not want to end the relationship and will may possible launch a physical reprisal. This reprisal can lead to the woman’s life being loss.
3. They Have The Upper Hand In The Relationship
There are millions of women worldwide especially in countries that they deemed ‘third world’, rely heavily on the pocket of men to live. The men work and basically pay all the bills while the women simply stays home and do home making. The woman sees the man as her means of survival and the man sees the woman as a child depending on him to eat, shelter and just about everything else. Many men abuse this upper hand in the relationship and will net out physical abuse because they know the woman has nowhere else to go and depends on them to survive.
4. They Are Weak and Probably Scared of Other Men
There are some men who basically have what I call women strength. They feel empowered knowing they can beat on a small female but simply do not have the balls to stand up and defend her against a real man.
5. Cant Handle Their Problems
There are those men with tons of problems on their minds and will resort to heavy drinking to try and drown the problems. When they reach home to their spouses they then begin pseudo conflicts and then exercise their anger on beating the woman.
Advise For Abused Women
1. Seek Counselling
I am not here to tell anyone to simply pack your bags and run out flying. Because there have been cases where men have changed and are living happy lives with their family. Before the relationship reaches to a point where it becomes unbearable emotionally and physically. You should seek cancelling. Sit down and speak with someone and have the spouse there for counselling after. Sometimes all it takes if for us human beings to speak out and listen too and great changes can effect.
2. Call the Police
If you believe that your life is threatened. Don’t be afraid to have the police involved. Remember, not every case of domestic affairs may lead to your spouse being arrested. But get the police involved as soon as the fear is realized that you are about to be or in danger.
Never be afraid to walk away. Don’t think about all the worldly possessions that you may be leaving behind. Run away as far as you can. If you have children, take them and run. Runaway with your life. You can attain all you believed you lost in that relationship. The greatest thing is to know that you are free from all the abuse.
Women and Domestic Murder
There are many women who have lived to tell the tale of their abusive relationships. But there are many who have died by the hands of their husbands or boyfriends. Women have been shot, stabbed, poisoned and just about any other modes of taken someone else’s life which can be used. Some have tried to exit the relationship as they had foreseen what would have taken place but simply never made it through the door. While some have left the relationship and yet still hunted and killed by their sick spouse who believe that they have the right to take someone else’s life.
Women, if you believe that you have an ex that may cause you harm, don’t be afraid to walk with your own protection. You have the right to life just like those who seek to take it.
© 2020 Clive Williams