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Small talk in relationship- Brings both closer!

Updated on November 14, 2013

While everyone wants to have a peaceful and happy married life, it is the lucky few who are able to enjoy an excellent relationship with her\his spouse.

Why is it so?

Why can’t everyone have a good marriage?

It is because you have many fears about your life and you do not feel like making your marriage work.

  • Are you worried about the future of your family?
  • Do you feel stressed about your tight work schedule?
  • Do you find it impossible to spend time with your family?
  • Does your conversation with your spouse invariably end in bitter arguments?

Most of you have to make a strenuous struggle to keep the love between you and your spouse alive and vibrant.

Why has marriage which should actually give you happiness and emotional security become a battle ground of fights and arguments?

Who is the culprit for such a situation in your life which robs you of the essence of marriage?

  • The culprit is you and your spouse.

What is the major fault you commit to make your married life lose its sheen very soon?

The fact is you live through your marriage in a routine way and so you are bored by your married life.

Why is your marriage boring?

  • You do the same thing over and over again.
  • You do not small talk
  • You are too concentrated on your problems
  • You do not spend light moments together
  • You hide your emotions from your spouse

It is very true you face many problems in your married life and find it impossible to deal with it. When one issue is solved there is another one waiting in the corner to demoralize you. The sad thing is that instead of relieving your tension by sharing your emotions with your spouse, you deviate from her\him to spend lonely moments of frustrated anger.

Are you aloof with your friends or colleagues? Whenever I go any office, l always observe the interaction between colleagues. The friendly repartee and the way they smile at each other, pulling legs and the pleasant atmosphere that exists there makes me wonder whether they are the same person when at home also.

You are fun in your workplace whereas you are morose in your home. Why this vast difference in your behavior at home and at work? The answer is very simple. You are pressurized by the problems you face in your family and relieve your pressure by enjoying amiable friendship with your colleagues.

When you talk with your spouse the conversation invariably turns towards the financial, emotional and other relationship issues you face in your marriage. You both do not agree to the views of the other and the result is arguments, squabbles, bitterness and resentment.

This is the reason why you see couples doing their own thing when at home and talk only when necessary. Lighter and fun moments are rare and scarce. Why do you only take issues as a topic for conversation with your spouse? It is very true you cannot avoid discussing family problems with your spouse, but that need not be the only topic for your interaction.

Do you know small talk can liven up your married life as nothing else?

What exactly is small talk?

  • It is an innocuous conversation, very light and fun.
  • It can be about movies, fashion trends, neighbors or film stars.
  • The conversation is tension free and it lengthens and extends the time you spend together.

You should interact with your spouse about mild topics which is not a serious family issue, but of general interest. Does conversation about movies or film stars evoke argument? It does not! It is sheer fun reviewing the pros and cons of a movie and how stars acted in it. The conversation is fun and cheerful. Just a small example of small talk!

Interaction about the naughty actions of your pet is always a joy to talk about and you invariably laugh together. There are many light topics which make you feel relaxed. You should laugh together as it makes you come closer to each other. Conversation about your family problems should just be a part of your interaction and should not occupy monopoly in it. But small talk should be the main conservation you have with your spouse as it is then you enjoy the true happiness of a good marriage.

© 2013 mathira

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