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What Do Women Really Want In A Relationship

Updated on February 1, 2011

What do women really want from a man ?

1. Intimacy

Woman and men are different as far as relationships go. Listen up men we are not that hard to figure out. The main thing women want from men is time. You need to make us a priority in your life. This is number one on the list also intimacy. If you get too busy and forget us we get resent full and argumentative at times. We are simple. It does not take allot of money to spend time with us. We like attention and affection. A kiss goodbye, a phone call just to see how are day is going. We want to feel important in your life. Basically communication. We do love to be adored!!! You don't have to lavish us with expensive gifts but once in a while is nice!

A sweet text message or email can just make our day. When men stop courting women we feel a loss of interest. Why do you think so many people are on Face Book? It's all about communication. The more communication the better. We want to feel a closeness with our man. So what if you see your girlfriend or wife everyday, try sending her an email or text. If your complaining there is a lack of sex, raise the communication and affinity, and watch what happens.

2. Love

Most importantly we just want to be loved. We want to feel loved by you. The actions and words have to match up. If they don't we will question it. We do not want to guess or play mind games. If you show it we will return it. We want the man to chase us and pursue us. We know its modern times but we want you to be the aggressor. We love it. We want to be swept off our feet. The more romantic the better. If your not the romantic type become the romantic type. You can get to our hearts through our emotions. If you want us to know, show it.

3. SEX

The next is sex. We like to be loved and feel a closeness with our partner. Don't be shy in this area. We really do want to know what you want and feel. Most important we want you to know as well. We do not want a wham bam thank you mam!! a 10 min quickie is not what we want. We want foreplay and lots of it. If your a bad lover we won't tell you, we will just fake it. You will know because we will just roll over and pretend to be tired. We definitely want to be pleased and have an orgasm. I had a friend who's husband was horrible in this department. She finally had the courage to tell him and he got a book. She said after he read it, he was so amazing and she was so glad to tell him. It can be hard for a man to face if he does not know what to do. We love to be kissed passionately. Especially on the neck and other places, you get the picture. After love making we love to talk and be held close. This is a must!!!

We want to feel like we matter in your life! We want to be asked for our opinion. We want to be an equal. A compliment goes a long ways. If we get our hair done, please take notice and say something. If we cook a nice dinner, please let us know! If both people are working we need to share in the household chores. If you expect the woman to work and manage a household, WATCH out! you will have one bitchy wife on your hands. She will become resentfull as well. Try to split things up equally. This is the biggest complaint women have in the relationship. We want a partner in our lives.

4. Support

What do I mean by support? We want a man to hold his own. We want his love and support. If we have something special to tell you, we want you to listen and encourage us. We also want to lean on you when we are down and out. Cheer us up! Tell us something funny so we can laugh. We love a sense of humor in a man. Not stupid, just funny! We also want you to better yourself in any way shape or form. Intelligence goes a long way. We love a man who wants to further his career and be educated. He does not have to be rich in money but we do want him to be financially responsible. We want him to pay his bills on time and to keep his credit good.

5. Truth

We just want our man to be honest with us. If your late, tell us why. Trust me there is no reason to lie about it. We have women's intuition. If you want to go out with the guys just let us know. If you are not getting home at a reasonable hour, we want a respect full phone call to be made. Also please answer your phone when we do call, because if you don't we will spin. We will think something horrible has happened and when it doesn't and you do come home late, yes we will get mad! Even if, nothing bad did happen this is just the way we are! If you want to keep the peace definitely make the effort to call. Honesty goes a long way with us.

6. Remember Special Occasions

We want to be remembered on special occasions. Our Birthdays and anniversaries. We just like knowing you remember and care. We want your words to match your actions. A special card or token gift goes a long ways! It makes us feel loved and important. These are all the things we really want in a relationship.


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      Natasha 5 years ago

      how can let let my boyfriend see that he being mislead at the church he is attending because it seems right now the communication between us is going down and things are not the way it use to be.

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      RANSOME ODUDU 5 years ago

      Great tips. My girl will never complian again.

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      sandylongman 6 years ago

      Your welcome!!! Work on it!!

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      Pedro Tapia R. Jr. 6 years ago

      If I can get that second chance with my wife I think things will turn out to be more than good. Thx for these tips :)

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      john2000 6 years ago

      What a great hub. I learned so much after reading it. Now I can make my girlfriend happy which i was trying to:-)

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      sandylongman 7 years ago

      Thank you for giving me things to think about as well!

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      DREAM ON 7 years ago

      You have such a wonderful hub.After nine years of marriage I thought I knew more than what I did.Sometimes we think we know and we have to admit when we are wrong.So I take some knowledge that I knew and tips from you and I am off to a good start.Sometimes they need support even if they are wrong.Just to know you are there for them in all kinds of weather.It is easy when the sun is outside and shining bright.But try it when your wet and cold and they just want you to be there to say I don't care who is right.I just am here for you time and time again.So I sometimes take things I believe strongly in and realize it is alright to disagree and she has a right to her opinion and her decision.Life is a give and take.Just keep giving and believe me you will feel like you are on the take.Life is so much fun with someone so special.If they want you to get them a glass of water if they are thirsty by all means do it.Then the rest is easy.Thanks for opening my eyes.My heart is in the right place sometimes it just skips a beat and that where I have to slow down and say I love you and that's all that matters!!!!

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      sandylongman 7 years ago

      Your welcome!!! Sometimes broken promises can lead to broken relationships.

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      Harold 7 years ago

      Yes i totally agree i am a man and sometimes our actions do not match with our words,Thank You!!!

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      youcanwin 7 years ago

      nice hub. I enjoyed it.


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      sandylongman 7 years ago

      Yes Respect for sure!!!!!!

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      epigramman 7 years ago

      R - E - S - P - E - C - T ......and now cue the song by Aretha Franklin!!!!

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      beth811 7 years ago from Pearl of the Orient Seas

      So true:)

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      sandylongman 7 years ago

      Thanks Mr. Nice Yes silence can be golden at times!!! HA!

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      Mr Nice 8 years ago from North America

      Hi sandylongman,

      Very well researched & It is a wonderful hub on this topic. Are you sure that is all a woman wants? May be not.......

      ~Women like silent men. They think they're listening. ~Marcel Achard

      “What Women Want: To be loved, to be listened to, to be desired, to be respected, to be needed, to be trusted, and sometimes, just to be held.” Dave Barry quotes

      ~The great question which I have not been able to answer, despite my 30 years of research into the feminine soul, is "what does a woman want"? -Sigmund Freud

      I really enjoyed your hub, thanks for sharing your thoughts. Good night

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      Buffertly 8 years ago

      i should imagine, these are the things men want too

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      sandylongman 8 years ago

      Well this is what women want. Sometimes the truth may be hard to face!

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      Neil Sperling 8 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Love - Money - Adventure... constantly. I agree with Anginwu - -that's a lot to expect from a man but how true... LOL

      Love - Light - Laughter


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      sandylongman 8 years ago

      Thanks very much!

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      Property-Invest 8 years ago from London

      Hey Sandy. Such a cute hub, it's good to know that the things women want are really quite easy to understand.

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      sandylongman 8 years ago

      Thanks for your comment! I have talked with several women regarding it basically actions and words need to match not really hard to do!

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      anglnwu 8 years ago

      Wow--that's a lot to expect from a man but how true. I think we basically want to know that we're loved and needed. Thanks for sharing.