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When is time for a divorce?

Updated on September 9, 2011

Unfortunately, not all marriages work out the way we want them too. Sometimes, it’s just easier to call it quits than to keep trying so hard to stay together. However, divorce is not that easy either. It can be very expensive and dividing the assets and debt can take forever. Things get even more complicated if children are involved. Marriage is hard a lot of times but it is also great at times too. Whether to pursue a divorce or not can be a very difficult decision to make. So, how do you know when it is time for a divorce?

No Remorse for Cheating

Cheating spouses are a common cause for divorce. However, a lot of marriages have also survived after infidelity. Cheating is a wrong and horrible thing to do but we are all human. Mistakes do happen and sometimes they are huge mistakes. While cheating causes a lot of pain and hurt, the deal-breaker is when the spouse doesn’t show any remorse for the affair. If your spouse doesn’t seem apologetic or is getting caught cheating every month then it is probably time to call it quits.

You can’t forget the past

If you can forgive and forget then the relationship can move on. Of course, it will take time to regain trust. However, if you are still fighting about small things that happened years ago then you may want to think about a divorce. Whether it be cheating, lying, or anything else, sometimes we need to accept that there are issues that will never be forgotten and move on.

Financial differences

They say money can’t buy love but money can definitely break a marriage. It’s not about how much money you have, but more your personal financial habits and goals. If one person has their heart set on saving every dime and retiring early and the other prefers to shop and rack up debt, there could be a problem. When your financial goals are not in line with your spouses, you should work together to find a compromise. If you are unable to reach a compromise, then you should consider a divorce.

Abuse

No one should tolerate abuse from their spouse, especially if there are children involved. There are different types of abuse, including physical, mental, and emotional abuse. Your spouse doesn’t have to be punching you in the face to be abusing you. A lot of times, words can hurt just as bad. Also, if you have children, it is your responsibility to keep them safe and you should do that no matter what it takes. When you love someone, it can be hard to leave them. Or sometimes an abused spouse is just too scared to leave. Still, in an abusive relationship, every step should be taken to get away from it.

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      rudeboy 6 years ago

      leading cause of divorce..,,. marriage

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      cblack 6 years ago from a beach somewhere

      Good for you moneycop. Too many people rush into marriage today.

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      moneycop 6 years ago from JABALPUR

      i haven't married yet, but i like your post, the thing is u have described it beautifully

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      cblack 6 years ago from a beach somewhere

      lol at Ghost. Good luck with #8!!

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      cblack 6 years ago from a beach somewhere

      Hi Dicke. I hope things work out for you. Good luck!!

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      Ghost32 6 years ago

      This ought to be fun--what with 6 divorces under my belt, followed by 15 good years and counting with wife #7. Key reason(s) for each split:

      1. Her refusal to grow. When we got hitched, she was a high school grad and I was a tech school grad with a few years of work experience, a rodeo career, and most of my military service under my belt. I kept growing from there, she grew at a MUCH slower rate, the gulf got too wide to bridge, and....

      2. No interest in physical romance--well, not fair. Give me a 110% drive, her a 10% drive.

      3. Impossibly jealous. Five minutes late from work meant I must have boinked everybody in our half of the county on the way home.

      4. This one told me it wasn't going to work an hour before we tied the knot, then set out to manifest that self-fulfilling prophecy.

      5. Refused to follow her man when he was in danger. I moved from one state to another, one time, simply because a whole little clan of ill-wishers had made it their life mission to take me down--an offer I declined. She stayed behind, and the 800 mile commute eventually became too much.

      6. Romance problems here, too (which was too bad, 'cause she was HOT), but the worst item was her refusal to discuss serious problems. Literally laughed at me, saying she didn't see them as needing discussion.

      In EVERY case,it was me who finally pulled the plug. Did I do the right thing at the right time? Well, I still very much like one of my original songs, the "hook" of which goes,

      "DIVORCE IS SO EXPENSIVE...BECAUSE IT'S WORTH IT!"

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