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Relationships--Why The Dating Sites Will Never Replace The Old Days In A Relationship.
Oh the good old days... We see Lucy and Ricky Ricardo. We skip leave it to beaver, but bump into Jenny and her Major Nelson... Gee! We have the pleasure to have lived enough to share our feelings in here. You might say we are old...? Almost 50 indeed, but still loving life and what our tomorrow brings. "Chief! duck that bullet" tells me Columbo who next to Kojak watch us from our LCD screen. "Just make sure you write a good article Joseph," they say as they walk away from the TV screen. Yeah right! good friends! They left a mess on my living room!
I log in on my Hub-Page account...and see this Big Messing Zine site, and com up with this hub, after reading Cardisa's response to our hub.
Since the early 90's dating sites have been in vogue, trying to replace casual and blind dating. Matching bot software made reality this very page from a science fiction episode. The potential was there. Women were not getting good responses from guys that they already knew from the nearby town. The e-Dating scenario seemed so promising and became a trusting alternative to the local bar.
Lack of time, and some unreported shyness made this alternative feasible. Social media erudite along with web designers teamed up to built these appealing sites. Single people and not so single fell for those colors and fonts.
We as designers tested those pastel blue that would turn into shaded pink at the time of signing up. A business is a business and the sites did become prosperous. We just gave up some secrets in the colors in here: Just check FaceBook or HubPages and you will agree with us.
Making fit this real world into a site..?
When the idea took momentum, we all wanted to try it and some of us went for it. But let's see now. If our ancestors discovered the fire, there was always another caveman to use it as a weapon. Monsieur Guillotine invented that horrific device used for carrying out executions by decapitation, that bore his name; he never thought it would be used to behead his physical existence, back in 1793. If our honcho brains that created the Internet knew what was in the package, they would've kept the net secret for another 30 years: Viruses, breaching security and even content stealing by the site you all know... this all would've been just a nightmare from the movie "total recall."
Then what is this real world that probably did fit the"glove"?
Still searching for that better half?
Just in plain English. A real world is full of crap, and if you want to add the crap of this world you will have to ask these people to join, along with us
- Cyber thieves
- International subversive terrorists
So you might say,"No! I met my hubby on the net and I'm happily married!" I agree with you completely, but the point in here is that the risk is much higher to meet mister wrong. 2000 candidates that matched your profile, doesn't mean there is quality in that response of an army. A the beginning of our hub, we recreated the good old days with all its flair. Gone are the days of meeting a guy/girl that your older brother, or older sister knew was the best party for you. Life was much easier and quality and morals were strong.
The chances of meeting mister right on these sites are insignificant. But the web page is a business and lives off of you and your hope. The matching software was just plain ludicrous. This proven personality-based matching system has made wonders they say, but is pathetic! Ever received emails from them to let you know that the match of the day is this lady from another country... or this pal from a remote area in Alaska? Come on! We are not that fool! We all need love and that is right, but playing with our money and our heart... that is crime! I have heard of terrible stories and you would be amazed: Like, this country that wants you over there to get that blond chic, and you find out the hard way that your 'body' is needed for some secret experiment in that Country, huh?
Of the those free chatlines. Most of them are liars. their only purpose is just to cause harm. Most of them have no jobs (7 hours online) and will promise you the world. They are experts in human psychology. Ever wonder why they ask you all those questions? They want to find your vulnerability. And is sad but women go to those sites just to get some stress away from a long day at work. There is a whole world on the other side of the screen , and we hope is not a toad.
What do we suggest then? Try to stay local and get support from your family. College might help you a little more than those quick fix sites; you actually have 10 semesters to get to know a future boyfriend/ girlfriend. If you want to try the sites, check those consumer rankings, and give it a try if you want, but you are opening your door to that 'Jumanji' of a world. Good luck!