I am in Philippines and I want to share views with you on my situation.
So, what is your situation? If marriage is a consideration, the main thing to consider (in my opinion) is love.
Yeah. I agree Phyllis. I think the main things of importance are love, the connection, the communication, compatibility, etc. Not the country or place on the map they are from. Where someone is from shouldn't change who the person is. Does environment play a role in someone's personality and psyche? Of course, but only to a certain extent due to the fact we all have this thing called free will (the ability to make our own decisions). If you're questioning whether or not to marry a woman from a third world country only because she's from a third world country then you guys probably shouldn't be worrying about marriage in the first place.
I am glad to know that you also believe that love is the best. But I can't understand why some married couple got divorced when you marry the one you love.
Well. No one knows what the future holds, and a lot of times people live in the moment instead of preparing for the future. People always say you should live in the moment because you never know if you'll be alive the next day or week, or year and so on and so forth, but marriage is commitment to your significant other for the future.
I think another issue is that people get stuck in the honeymoon phase and while they're in this euphoric state they're sometimes settling on what their partners dreams and visions are. What happens from this point is people get into the marriage and everything is great and they realize that the vision they saw wasn't really the vision of the future they wanted, but yet that of their spouse. Resentment begins to rear its ugly head and the whole dynamic of the marriage changes because you have 2 individuals wanting different things and now instead of a team, they don't necessarily become enemies, but they do become divided.
People get married and then divorced for a number of reasons. Maybe there was infidelity committed and has created a lack of trust. Maybe there are financial issues popping up and because one party doesn't stick by the other one's side and stay united so they can fight through their issues together, they divorce instead. There could be issues of domestic violence. I mean literally hundreds of reasons.
I think it's safe to say that marriage isn't as highly regarded as it once was. People don't take their time getting to know one another the way they used to, and as a result there are record highs for divorce rates. If people really got to know their significant other, studied their partner and not only figured out their likes and dislikes, but also why they are the way they are, got to know their family, really had discussions about the future and the vision they both have separately and together, I think marriages would last longer. There wouldn't be as many "honeymoon phase" marriages that are doomed for failure.
I still believe there are still good couple who are not unto the decision of divorce. I like your view but how come you know such things, a lot of things about marriage?
I definitely believe there are a lot of good couples that will stand the test of time and will find a way to make it work even with incredible pressures that divorce places. I'm honestly not sure how I "know" so much on the topic, as I've never been married, and have only been in one serious relationship. I consider myself to be an observer of people. I enjoying studying people, not specific people like stalking haha, but people in general. I enjoy seeing the interactions that people have with one another, whether that mean 2 poeple in a couple dynamic or a larger scale with a group dynamic. I mean there are relations happening every day everywhere. We are relating to one another right this second. I see these things and find myself over analyzing most of the time. Why are you and I so heavily engaged right now? Well, I think its twofold. You obviously have a want or need to know the opinions of others on this topic, and I believe this is a very serious topic at hand. Well, marriage in general, because it's taken so lightly by a huge portion of the world population. The third world country aspect of this forum wasn't really what intrigued me. I could be very wrong here, but I think your initial question for this forum wasn't really about the fact that she's from a third world country, it's more about an issue of acceptance of where she comes from and acceptance from your peers (if this is in fact about yourself that is... or this could be completely hypothetical and I'm over analyzing again haha).
Marry whomever you want to marry for whatever reasons you have. That is between you and whoever that other person is.
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