Mores and Relationships

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   gmwilliamsposted 9 years ago

   
   There are all types of romantic relationships.  There are people who believe that such relationships should be exclusive and that having outside relationships are akin to being unfaithful.  There are factions of such people who strongly contend that even people should not even indulge in exclusive romantic relationships unless there is marriage or a very strong commitment.   Others believe in a more open, inclusive romantic relationship.  They strongly contend that humans are not monogamous and that the idea of monogamy is an outmoded and unrealistic concept.   They reason that putting strictures on relationships inevitably lead to cheating.  They maintain that with freer, more inclusive relationships, there is a lesser likelihood of cheating.  What is your take on this?

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I believe there is no "right" or "wrong" only "agree" or "disagree".
      
      The real trick to relationships is finding someone who (naturally agrees) with you! Unfortunately it appears to be human nature for people to choose and confront mates who are not in agreement with them while having hope to persuade them (their way) is the "right way".
      
      Oftentimes they stoop to seeking others to help pile up on their mate to drive their message home. They may call them names or berate them.
      
      If you meet someone who wants to have an "open relationship" and you want an "exclusive relationship" it doesn't mean he/she is an a-hole!
      It simply means you're not looking for the same type of relationship!
      They're not "the one" for you! (And vice versa)
      
      Another very common example is one person in the relationship sees nothing wrong with maintaining friendships with their exes while their mate hates or dislikes the fact they do so. Instead of them arguing back and forth; they'd be better off with people who naturally agree with them!
      
      Neither person is "right or wrong". People are entitled to have their own preferences and their own life philosophy. Our goal should not be to "convince" someone to {change} but rather to find someone who already (is) the kind of person we want to be with!
      
      Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!
      
      Couples that (naturally agree on the major things) in life tend to get along better and are happier in their relationships than those who don't.
      
      Who knew?!
      
      

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         gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

         The bases of a good to excellent relationship are commonality and respect.  If these two components are in order, the relationship will run smoothly.  Other components are how high has each people evolved and each person's respective maturity level.  Immature and unevolved people have bad relationships because they have mental, emotional, psychological, and even psychic issues which precludes having a positive relationship whether it is exclusive or inclusive.

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