Have your ever "recycled" your romantic relationships?
Recycling means - you have dated him/her before, split up, then met up and started dating again. Why, why not and what do you think about "recycling"?
I know this is about dating but if I may...If marriage counts, we are forever recycling! It is either recycle or throw away! Somethings that are all shiny and new do not hold value like ones that have been preserved, treasured, and revamped at times. When it comes to dating...I look at dating as shopping, you can try it out but can always return it, I do not know to many who go and try it on once again.
There have been a few times when I've dated someone, it hasn't worked out so we broke up & then tried it again later.
One example would be this boy I dated when I was in 8th grade. We were young & it was pretty much just passing notes, holding hands, and sitting by each other at lunch.... after we graduated high school we met up again and decided to give it another try. We ended up engaged but never got married. He was a great guy & we had an awesome friendship, there just wasn't enough "spark" in the chemistry area, so be broke up again but it was with no ill will. We both agreed that we weren't meant for one another & that we each wanted the other to find the right person.
I think it's because you're comfortable with a person that you have been with before.
Lol! I love the term recycle .I am not sure if i call my past relationships recycle because there have been no words that we both said that we were no longer together. It was always in an undercurrent tone that we were no longer together but deep down inside I have never stopped thinking of them. I didn't date a lot but the few that i dated ,it was not traumatic at all. We drifted apart, but i never stopped thinking of them even now. As a matter of fact, I kept friends with them . Even after all is said and done, I always am the first one to make peace,pick up the phone and call or email them or send them postcards when I travel. That part i like a lot. I think they appreciate that from me .at least i hope so.
Sweet - There are a few of my past relationships I was very happy to place in the blue box and watch them be hauled away.... while truly "Wishing the next person they hook up with to be the partner they desire."
So far I have not recycled any of my past relationships or rekindled them to date again. There are a couple I would open the doors too, but have not had a knock on my door...... nor have I knocked on theirs. Maybe I should!....
Good question - has me thinking!
i didn't recycled my romantic relationship. i married to another women. and recycling comes from a poisonous mind. i am not poisonous.
I would disagree with the poisonous mind, I would like to think of it as going to who is comfortable. Plus you are married so I don't think it would mean a relationshiop like yours...but I could be wrong. I pray God blesses your marriage always.
People can get back together for lots of reasons - maybe even love. But it isn't always a sign they have a problem, or poisonous mind.
Yes, I have done it before and I think that sometimes we grow and mature and when you try again later on in your life it may be different (depending on the reasons you break up to begin with). Though, I did it more as of a back up once or twice...didn't want to be alone and it was more of convience than anything...not exactly the right reason to do it.
Wow..I learn something new every day...recycling for one.. No I have not experienced this................
Ewww, don't think so... my response applies to my past experience, but as for me I wouldn't do it. I'm definitely not into recycling!
Love the "term" but not the idea, probably nothing worth to recycle. ))
No, I've never recyled a relationship. I have on the other hand gone through a version of "friends with benefits" or something along the lines of a "booty call" with exes in the past. It was generally duing a time where both people are (in between) relationships. Neither party is interested in getting back together but there is a familarity and comfort level. If you are feeling lonely but mentally not ready to get back into the "dating scene" it was just easier to "phone a friend".
Maybe that's why I'm not a big fan of being involved with someone who remains friends with exes today! LOL!
LOL I am friends with all of my ex's I think...and I have had a few of the same kind of friends with ex's you have had...also have a best guy friend that is like that when we both aren't dating:) I would rather that than looking for one nighters
abbykorinnelee, I suspect we are not alone! ha ha
Connecting with a "special friend" who knows what you like beats having one night stands. It's like having a Life alert button for times in need, only this is more of a sex alert! LOL
LOL you have me rolling in laughter right now dashing scorpio with that life alert button comment...I was going to say the clapper...lol. I prefer knowing where "it" has been if you know what I mean lol
Eh... If I could shred 'em up and stamp them into something post-consumer and semi-usable, I might've. But nope. I tossed 'em and let the scavengers find them.
LOL .... shred'em sounds intersting... I should try that
LMAO...I definaly have done that and feel that way about my ex-husband!! The most recent one is exactly what te singer is talking about in that song Jar of Hearts...someone needs to give him a taste of his own medicine:)
First time I've heard of recycling relationships. I haven't but, I think if 2 people are meant to be together, no matter if they split and live in different countries, life sometimes brings them back together again. So, it's a good thing.
This is something I strugle with wishing I could do. Most of times men get biter and don't even want to be friends. I love to.
Usually if you dump someone they don't want to be "friends" unless they believe they can work their way back into having a relationship. Most guys however don't want (real) platonic relationships with their exes.
That's just sad the love is already there it is just shifting gears. This is a sad mistake men make.
When I was younger I was a habitual relationship recylcer. And P.S. - it never worked.
It's hard to say why this happened. Perhaps just misplaced optimisim, or a belief that I could "fix" the relationships?
I think they didn't last because there was a reason we broke up in the first place. It's a case of trusting your instincts. No matter how cute, charming, or sexy the guy is, if you broke up once, there's an issue and it's probably a deal breaker.
I've read about people who broke up, met years later, and lived happily ever after, but I don't actually know anyone who did this. If these scenarios do happen and subsequently succeed, it may be that one or both partners gained perspective with time and age.
Yes I have and should have known better. If it didn't work the first time? What made us think it will work again period? I know people can change, But their core values basically all stay the same.
Never did I recycle serious relationships. When it's over it's over.
Friends with benefits were great to recycle! It made those friendships much more interesting. More intimate but not too.
Recycling serious relationships would be the same as recycling my heart. Impossible. However I do see a difference concerning the comment Lady_E made here....
Yes, I reconnected with someone I was in love with over 20 years ago (and he with me) before I married someone else (long stupid story). My old flame had moved on, but we had a nice summer - not as intense as the two summers of our youth, but for a moment there, it was good to remember why I was crazy about him and crazy to let him go. I don't think he felt much chemistry for me anymore and while I wanted us to be best friends, I guess I will have to be content with the memories - old and new.
Recycling means to give another chance to your broken relation. If it broke because of some misunderstanding, then it is good. We must try to cope it. But if it broke because of solid reason, then it is like to invite problem.
I did it one year earlier with one of my good friend. After 3 4 months break up. on friendship day I messaged her and gave another chance to our friendship. By God's grace, we are again good friends.
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