Why Do Marriages Fail?

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  1. ngureco profile image81
    ngurecoposted 14 years ago

    Why Do Marriages Fail?

  2. worrdz32 profile image60
    worrdz32posted 14 years ago

    Lack of communication. Lack of putting GOD first.

  3. mhajnal profile image67
    mhajnalposted 14 years ago

    Most people decide to marry when they are in love. Love makes people blind to their partner's fault and unbearable attitude. When the love fades (it does, in 18 months or less), many problems emerge. Most incompatibility issues only become apparent when two people live together for a long time.

  4. Lady_E profile image63
    Lady_Eposted 14 years ago

    Communication breakdown,  infidelity, no more love, wanting different things, boredom....

  5. zaina-777 profile image60
    zaina-777posted 14 years ago

    Infidelity, lack of communication which often leads to compromising trust, friendship and loyalty and the commitment that was vowed forever. There may also be peer pressure especially if one is from a different religion, caste, country etc. Although we are now living in the twentieth century, some age old belief's amongst some societies still live on........

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    Tamil Hot Actressposted 14 years ago

    Because lack of purity between one or both wife and husband

  7. rainbowz profile image60
    rainbowzposted 14 years ago

    Marriages are destroyed by many things.

    1. People's inability to change or ever admit they're wrong.
    2. Selfishness.
    3. Lack of a desire to work to maintain intimacy.
    4. Lack of romance.
    5. Laziness.
    6. Gender roles or the lack of femininity/masculinity in a partner.
    7. Power struggles between partners.
    8. The Feminist Movement
    9. Physical and emotional distances created by partners in the military.
    10. Having children too soon.
    11. Inability to compromise.
    12. Loss of fun and laughter in the relationship.
    13. Childishness or adolescent behavior.
    14. Pornography or emotional infidelity.
    15. Physical infidelity.
    16. Unsolicited advice or influence from family, in-laws, or the church.
    17. Extreme age differences between partners.
    18. Workaholic or extremely ambitious partners.
    19. Getting married for any reason other than love.
    20. It's just too easy to call it quits and get a divorce.

    All of these things can contribute to the downfall of a marriage.

  8. Linda's Hub Pages profile image61
    Linda's Hub Pagesposted 14 years ago

    I believe that if a couple does not pray together,they will not stay together.We must both be willing to realize when we are at fault & ask forgiveness,we also must put the others feelings in mind.realize why they are acting the way they are.we must learn to listen to what the other one is saying from inside,not just the words that come out of their mouths.If you really love them then you will begin to listen deeper.Try it with God being the head of that marriage in prayer & see if it does not work.For what we really love or want we fight far even if it is something we don't feel like doing.we must make sacrifices.

  9. fhl2007 profile image60
    fhl2007posted 14 years ago

    Rainbowz has a pretty nice list.  In my opinion I would state:

    1. Inability to Forgive
    2. Unwilling to accept partner for who they are and not who they want them to be
    3.Occasssional effort versus continual effort

  10. G.L.A. profile image82
    G.L.A.posted 14 years ago

    Looking back over the last three or more decades, I believe that somewhere along the line we stopped raising our children to be husbands, wives and parents.. perhaps it was during the 60's free love movement, or the 80's 'me-me-me' generation. Who knows?? The divorce rate is proof enough that our society enters marriage unprepared. I believe that the break-down of American families was the biggest tragedy of the 20th century, and desparately hope that this century will see some changes for the better..  our children and their children deserve better than what they are getting!  Marriage is the most rewarding, yet difficult endeavor of a life time, followed only by raising children.. so if you think other areas of your life are too difficult, then don't even attempt marriage & child rearing. FYI ~ I've been married 45+ years. It's still rewarding, and it's still difficult.

  11. Star22 profile image60
    Star22posted 14 years ago

    Number one reason for marital problems are financial issues.
    People rather quit than work things out. You can't expect for your relationship to be perfect. If you want to quit on your marriage because it is not perfect to find that "perfect" someone, then you will never find someone because nobody is perfect!
    Everyone has some type of issue or another. So it is better to work at your marriage than go find a new partner. Reflect on why you got married in the first place.

  12. floating mind profile image69
    floating mindposted 14 years ago

    Marriages also fail because of what the parents have taught the child.  Some parents teach their children to miss-communicate as a way of controlling the relationship.  Or worst, some children learn from their parents that abuse is the way a marriage is suppose to be; and from some reason, the child turned adult cannot see the harm in the abuse they bring to their own marriage.

  13. xiao_kang profile image59
    xiao_kangposted 14 years ago

    I've never been married and am mostly opposed to the idea but I feel that marriage fails due to unrealistic expectations forced on us by an archaic system of beliefs.
    Heterosexual marriage comes with a whole bag of preconceived ideas and roles that are not fair for either party. Men have to be "men" as society has defined them. Women have to be "women" like men think they should be. When either party doesn't meet these expectations trouble arises out of the disappointment or from a power struggle. I've heard people say that in their spouse they are looking for their mother/father or at least the stereotypical equivalent. If a person sat down and thought hard about what defines a wife or a husband and put aside culture and ignorant beliefs passed down thru the generations then there would be more flexibility in a marriage and less bondage.
    That's just my opinion. Other sources I've read online say that the main cause of divorce is financial. That's a whole other can of worms stemming from greed and materialism that over-rule love and common sense.
    But what do I know. I'm just a little gay boy who can't marry even if I wanted to.
    Live in peace.

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    afshan begposted 14 years ago

    Most relationships fail as people have less and less time for each other. Lives are getting complicated only time time for indivisual "ME" is left no time for US

  15. Mahmo profile image60
    Mahmoposted 14 years ago

    In most cases the marriages fail by reason of selfishness of the spouses and their failure  to develope effective means of communication and mutual understanding.

  16. appam profile image59
    appamposted 14 years ago

    It is either due to over ambitions, utter selfishness or both. This may look as a very generalized statement. But when you read any issue with these the things will be clear. Any thing you can think about and see it through the lens of these two. You will be able to read the answer well. Think again and again

  17. FirstStepsFitness profile image57
    FirstStepsFitnessposted 14 years ago

    Marriages fail for the same reasons business fail
    No Marriage Plan
    Lack of financial planning
    No long term business plan
    No mutual agreements as to how the company should run
    Disagreements over business arrangements
    Disagreements over job descriptions
    To name a few .....

  18. ThunderKeys profile image64
    ThunderKeysposted 13 years ago

    After working with hundreds of couples and families in private practice and as clincal consultant, I'd say that the majority of failed marriages result from the couple's inability to effectively listen for, express and meet eachother's core relationship needs. The reverse is also true here....

  19. daizhining profile image61
    daizhiningposted 12 years ago

    miscommunication... the inability to convey the message the way she or he wants that person to understand it...

  20. RC Cooper profile image60
    RC Cooperposted 11 years ago

    Two things are the cause of a divorce: money and sex. There is either too much of one or the other, or not enough.


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