Coping with people who twist what you say

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  1. lkeipp profile image60
    lkeippposted 9 years ago

    Coping with people who twist what you say

    You can say something that is clearly and specifically about yourself, and they read it that you attacked them, even if it has nothing even remotely to do with  them. Besides telling them to jump off a cliff, how do you get these people to read - or listen - to what was actually said, not what they assumed must have been said?  I've taken interpersonal communications classes, and still don't know what to do about them.  Ideas?

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    TypingTornadoposted 9 years ago

    suggestion...  find a new group of people to communicate with.  you're obviously surrounded by people who are not meshing with you, and that doesn't take a very educated guess.

  3. atlovesbm profile image73
    atlovesbmposted 9 years ago

    Hang out with people who DON'T think the world revolves around them.
    How about trying to confront them. Say, "hey, how did you take what I said and made it about YOU?"

    That's what I would do. I can't tolerate people like that..

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    nicole gilmoreposted 9 years ago

    just dont say any thing when your around them dur de dur

  5. GNelson profile image74
    GNelsonposted 9 years ago

    Get away from them they are not worth your time.

  6. outdoorsguy profile image61
    outdoorsguyposted 8 years ago

    Jack slap them.... Cough  I mean.. dont talk to them anymore.  Ive found those kind of folks never change..

    of course you could just twist what you say so they dont have the chance.  LOL

  7. SheZoe profile image73
    SheZoeposted 7 years ago

    it depends on who they are i suppose. The easiest thing to do is avoid them but that's the easy way out. if it's someone i want/have to be in relationship with i just keep trying to get to the bottom of it. i'm innately curious, so someone doing this would make me curious as to the reason they are doing it. Do they do it with everyone? or just with me? if it's just with me, they must have an issue with me that makes them think this. What is it? How can it be resolved?  A lot of times if you don't react angrily and just ask questions people will fess up to what's really going on.

  8. Shauntforever profile image61
    Shauntforeverposted 7 years ago

    You know, I'm a pretty good listener and it's so funny how someone could say something then turn it around and say they said something else.   People like that communicate with themselves a lot.


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