Im curious about this girl ...

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   ryansmith1posted 14 years ago

   Im curious about this girl ...
   
   we both flirt alot and about 5 weeks ago i was talking to her about going out and she said that she didnt think she could handle a boyfriend right now? i think that was kindof a weird way to put it but okay then...and things have just been going pretty good and im going to pull her aside tomorrow when we hang out and im debating if i should just straight out ask her out, or ask something about the handle thing and after i hear her answer say like i think you would be a wonderful girlfriend and i think we would be great together? so what should i do?

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   Diane Insideposted 14 years ago

   sounds like she senses that you might ask her out and she is trying to give you a clue so that she doesn't have to flat out reject you. Because she still wants to be friends. I wouldn't ask her out right now. Later maybe if she gives you hints that she might want to. but Not right now.

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   Drew niteposted 14 years ago

   First, you have to understand that a girl flirting can mean a number of things: it could be that she likes you, or it could just be that she has a flirtatious nature, so in her eyes it’s all innocent play. Now, she said five weeks ago that “she didn’t think she could handle a boyfriend right now.” There may (or may not) have been something going on in her life at that time that you may have been unaware of, but either way she saw a relationship as an added stress. Things may or may not have changed within that five weeks. I think communication is the key. I’m assuming that you guys are friends, and as such, you should discreetly pull up a conversation to see where she stands on being in a relationship, and the rational behind it. Knowing where she stand will aid you in what to do next.
       She may in fact like you, or she may just see you in the context of being a friend right now, so I wouldn’t come on too strong right away. If she would consider being in a relationship, you should be genuine and express the way that you feel about her, and ask her out. Don’t rush to the being my “girlfriend.” Date first. If she doesn’t want to be in a relationship, you have to respect her and her feelings, but that doesn’t mean that there is no hope. You could take the risk and still tell her how you feel. Here is the thing with that, you tell her so that she knows how you feel, but not to force her into a relationship. With the risk, you also have to be open to rejection. But, it is good because it tells you to move on. Let her know that you care about her, and that you are willing to respect her, and stand by her. Or, you don’t take the risk, and spend the time trying to make her see that you are good together. Personally speaking, I would take the risk because it gives a definite stance on both ends, and when she is ready for a relationship, she knows how you feel already.

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   MickSposted 14 years ago

   don't ask her out, never let them think you're that keen, start flirting with other girls when she's there.

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   jasper420posted 14 years ago

   she clearly stated she couldnt handle a boyfreind right now i would start off as freinds and see where that goes.

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   LeeWallsposted 14 years ago

   Leave it alone. Don't even bother her or bring up the topic again and stop flirting because then you think it's going to lead to something and you wind up questioning yourself; that's not necessary.

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   RSBrauerposted 14 years ago

   I agree that you should go meet other girls. Maybe she is interested and maybe not. Either way, you'll meet other girls you like and make her jealous in the process!

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   BuffaloGal1960posted 11 years ago

   I'd be cool and ask if she'd like to hang out as friends and take it from there.

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