How to let go of haunting past?
At times, I wish my mind had a delete button to get the information out of my system and delete is forever from my recycleling bin, however, that would be possible in an ideal world.
Haunting thoughts would be somewhat like continuously dwelling or having reminders that bring them to life and there's a reason for it which nobody can answer except you. Work with a therapist can do wonders to help you see, understand and overcome sad/bad thoughts. hope that helps.
i believe that time is the best healer, afterall with the passage of time, its kinda blurring part of memories that I don't want to cherish..
if it doesn't work..i simply let the bad memories to flow freely and think of it as a dark part along with the bright part that help build the current me
One important lesson: Life is not a rehearsal. No chance to do it right the next time.
But that is not bad news for you. It means that you can't change your past, but have COMPLETE freedom to choose your future. Decide what you want out of life. Write it down. Write it down everyday. And every day as you write down what you want (let it change, if you change your wishes and your mind) you will begin to realize that the only thing stopping you from being and doing exactly what you want to be and do is your REFUSAL to let go of old flaws and old obstacles. It is not the past that hinders you, it is your desire to inject the past into your present and future.
Even more importantly: Pray, and ask God to help you see how this past is meant to help and teach you now. Try to see if any good has come out of this past, even in unexpected ways. It is strange, but if you start to do that, sometimes you begin to see that even bad things can turn out to be blessings in disguise. I do not know what you went through, but think about it.
You don't mention what happened in your past so it's difficult to offer any specific advice... But, this should help:
First of all, realize that you are in control of your destiny. Where you are right now is the residual result of your past thoughts and actions. You have the ability of create a better future for yourself. Don't let the past hold you back.
Secondly, all of us go through "good" and "bad" experiences. View what has happened to you as an experience. Very often "bad" experiences can help you to become a better person or even enable you to help others.
Thirdly, don't see yourself as a victim. If you see yourself as a victim you will remain a victim. Don't think negative thoughts about yourself or others. Keep your thoughts positive.
Hope this will help you.
try to think postive thoughts be thankfull for what you do have and learn to let go of the thingd that hurt you i have a troubled past as well howevwer it dosent bother me instead i focus on what i have and count my blessings i know its easier said than done but once you get a hang of it it becomes instingtive
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