How much should you reveal about your previous lovers?

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   pb3131posted 15 years ago

   How much should you reveal about your previous lovers?
   
   When you are in a relationship, how much should you tell your new love about your past lovers. Honesty is important I know, but isn't there such a thing as "too much information"?

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   wychicposted 15 years ago

   I think it is important to reveal the parts that taught you something, that had an impact on your life in some way, and of course anything that has an impact now. If a previous lover didn't really have these effects on you and there's absolutely no bearing on your life now or who you are now, then there's nothing to be gained by divulging the information. I know for me it's been very helpful to know some of the details about how a previous wife or girlfriend treated my husband and some of the major issues they had, because then I not only know a little better how to deal with it when problems arise, I also have a much better understanding of where he's coming from on various issues. For instance, he's very touchy about arguments that escalate into yelling and such and would never tolerate anything being thrown, but because I know that a previous girlfriend stuck a fork in his back during a fight that he had to get the neighbor's help to remove, then that makes sense for him to be so touchy and I take extra care to stay calm. That said, it would be of absolutely no use to expect him to go into intimate details about those relationships that is really none of my business...it's good to know he likes something, but there's no need to know who showed it to him first. All I need to know in that respect is that those relationships are long over.

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   asknicoleposted 15 years ago

   yes, there is such a thing as too much information; in slang term 'tmi' haha. in a relationship, ofcourse you and your partner are going to want to know what your other relationships were and basic questions like: who broke up with who, why, how far sexually did you go.. but to describe and detail your emotions and other  sexually desires between you and your past should not be mentioned. Because then it causes jealousy and we all know the green eyed monster can create fights

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