My friend is turning into a boy-crazed skank and she's an adult who acts like a

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   MalAdjustedposted 14 years ago

   My friend is turning into a boy-crazed skank and she's an adult who acts like a child what can i do?
   
   lovie, i have this friend who is in constant need of attention, whether it be good or bad. She craves male attention especially, she presents herself as a whore yet i dont think she realizes want everyone truely thinks of her. We're bffs and now i can barely stand to be around her, why does she act this way? why does she have to hook up with guys to feel any sense of self worth? what can I do to make her realize that she's become a s.l.u.t and people are starting to hate the way she behaves?

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   dmanetposted 14 years ago

   We all crave attention... to have someone to listen to us... be there for us etc... It's human nature. Some of us settle for temporary situations... or for the first person to come across seemingly willing to be this savior. It's not that she's become a slut. She's simply the ideal prey for most men. There'll always be a taker waiting to take advantage of someone in her position. She'll see them as the perfect fit to fill that gap. Once they've got what they wanted out of her, they move on, leaving your friend in the same position she was in to begin with... and once more... looking for the next guy. And this will repeat itself over and over again.
   
   Not to belittle your friend in any ways, but I would suggest therapy. That solution won't be met without any resistance though. You can always try to reason with her to admit that the path she has chosen to walk is one that will most likely not have a happy ending. Few years ago, I would have suggested to let her learn from her mistakes... getting hurt and enduring the pain on her own will be lesson enough... but with so much more at stake, mainly STD's... as a good friend, you should definitely not let it happen any longer... even if it means talking to someone with more authority... her parents... even if it might be at the cost of your friendship.

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   MickSposted 14 years ago

   It's her life and none of your business so let her get on with it.

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   ichoosehimposted 14 years ago

   She probably doesn't realize how bad she has become so I suggest you sit her down and let her know how she is acting and how it is affecting you. As her bff she should know that you are looking out for her. If that doesn't work you may  have to put a little distance between you. Goodluck.

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   Dear Lovieposted 14 years ago

   Dear MalAjusted, I used to actually have a friend exactly like this. The reason your friend may act this way is because she has really low confidence, or she could possibly have disorder(not saying she does). Not all of us unfortunately are comfortable with our selfs so as a result we go out and do things even if it goes against our best judgement.  My best friend used to suffer from bi polar disease so she would get with hundreds of guys looking for male companionship. One day I got sick of the way she was acting so I told her flat out I was disgusted by the way she acted and told her getting with thousands of guys will never fill whatever void she was trying to fill. When I told her this she didn't even realize how disgusting she had come to look to other people. The best advice I can give you is to talk to her and tell her that the way shes acting isn't mature or classy and doesn't make her look good in any way shape or form. That not only is it "digusting" and can give her a bad reputation, that she can also catch a disease that can cost her, her life. There is much more to life then guys.

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   Malisimposted 14 years ago

   try to get her to realize what she is doing or leave her alone

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