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I am a 26 years old thin tall man and > my weight 50 kg and height 5 feet 8 inch

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    kanhiya_05_06posted 7 years ago

    I am a 26 years old thin tall man and
    > my weight 50 kg and height 5 feet 8 inch and married...

    > last 5  months,and my wife 28 year old normal healthy
    > women her weight 49 kg and height 5 feet both are black
    > complxion and my says she does't love me,and does't like me
    > but before she like me and love me, she I feel my wife's
    > character not good. She looks at guys and wants to show them
    > her body. She likes to talk with guys. If I get angry then
    > she calls me am a jealous guy. She's had 30 or 40 affairs in
    > the past. Am feel I need to leave her but I can't leave
    > because I love her so much... Don't know what to do. Please
    > give me suggestion. Note from the Divorce

  2. L a d y f a c e profile image79
    L a d y f a c eposted 7 years ago

    30 or 40 affairs?? On you? You indeed are a patient man.

    Since you love her so, there are a few measures to take before you throw in the towel. It doesn't sound like she is very open to communication, given her response to your reaction toward her and other men. Maybe you should suggest marriage counseling. During marriage counseling you both get to talk, and both listen. Ask her why she acts this way? Is there something she's not getting from you that she needs, and hasn't communicated to you? Tell her why this makes you feel the way it does, and what it is doing to you and your marriage. The marriage counselor will be able to lay out the importance of trust in a marriage, and the factors that can compromise it.

    If she refuses to compromise, refuses to see your point of view, and refuses to consider your feelings in this matter, my humble advice is to leave and save yourself. I've been in places I never want to go back to, and looking back, wish I had had the strength to leave earlier, before I was completely destroyed. You don't need anyone. People are supposed to be in our lives because we want them there, and they add to our happiness. Not because we feel like they're a part of us we couldn't ever breathe without. That sentiment is lovely when things are going right, but in reality, that sentiment can cause a lot of harm. I cannot see a good enough reason to spend the rest of your only life with someone who constantly takes away from your happiness.

    You, like everyone else, deserve to be with someone who respects you and gives you everything you give to them. You only get one life and one of every day...do what only you can, and make the decision to make yourself happy...whichever road that ends up being down.

    Above all else, love yourself, protect yourself, and be strong for yourself.

    Good luck, friend.

  3. peachpurple profile image81
    peachpurpleposted 7 years ago

    it sounds like she isn't communicating with you. talk to her patiently, no screaming. it is because you are not romantic in action or in bed? you are not good looking? she look down on your job or status? then, you need to figure out how to overcome those problems. ask her to give you some time to improve

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    rocko hunterposted 4 years ago

    if you really love her and you don't want to leave her then improve yourself by taking some supplements by which you can gain weight and look healthy. And make her daily feel special, because girls like those men very much those who make them feel very much special in this whole world.