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Why Shouldn’t A Man Marry A Woman Taller Than Himself?

  1. ngureco profile image83
    ngurecoposted 7 years ago

    Why Shouldn’t A Man Marry A Woman Taller Than Himself?

  2. yur fav enemy<3 profile image54
    yur fav enemy<3posted 7 years ago

    i dont think height should limit people! if you are truely in love; go for it! besides who ever the hell said that must not realize that u become the same height while in bed.. if u know what i mean =X

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    anee aneeshposted 7 years ago


  4. mlizardo2010 profile image57
    mlizardo2010posted 7 years ago

    i dont see why not. height, sex, race and religion doesnt count when love is at risk. everything goes as long as the love is pure and mutual.

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    foreignpressposted 7 years ago

    This is a practice that has probably contributed to more divorces than anything else. The reason is that the social stigma of height has limited a woman's choice of men -- and vice versa -- to where people "settle" for a mate that is less than desirable. Historically, men have always been taller than women. And being tall is also a show of power or dominance over the other. But as cultures merge and women become more prominent in society, the height factor becomes another stigma in our society that should be eliminated.
        Many women look for the ideal man: Tall, dark, handsome, muscular, suave and debonair, with great intellect, and well-travelled. At least that's what I see on Craigslist Women for Men postings. The emphasis is always on "tall."
        Unfortunately, I am short, fat, totally uncultured, the consummate village fool, and as worldly as the common barnyard hen. So this is a particularly sore point with me. On a blind date recently, the woman was so tall that I ended up escorting her kneecaps!
        And what would happen if a short man married a tall woman? She would have to carry him over the threshhold! Other problems would follow. The man would have to carry a stepladder to get a simple kiss; either that, or the woman would be on her knees for any intimacy. Conversation would be difficult as the man would need a megaphone to make himself heard. If the woman were especially tall, he'd have to wait for the clouds to part to see her face.  And then the stares. People would point and whisper, as they always do when society's dictates aren't followed to the letter.
        Nonetheless, this is a stigma that needs to go away. People place too much importance on the physical aspect rather than the cerebral and emotional. It's the latter qualities that make for a truly strong and long-lasting relationship. If two people are truly in love then height should make no difference.

  6. Wrath Warbone profile image71
    Wrath Warboneposted 7 years ago

    She might kick his butt. Then he would have no basis to dominate the household. That would decrease his ability to relate well to his work world due to the loss of self confidence. But on the other hand, maybe he would benefit from a good butt kicking if, for example, he spends all the money on partying instead of paying the bills and buying food for his family. He'd stop that right away if she insists that way.

  7. PMS9 profile image74
    PMS9posted 7 years ago

    Man will feel insult... or may be the couple in which woman having more height than a man looks somthing different or looks unmatchable.

    If there is part of love then there is no any objection such height or any else..

  8. Springboard profile image81
    Springboardposted 7 years ago

    I don't think that height really matters at the end of the day any more than any other factors should necessarily weigh in. If you love someone it really doesn't matter what one looks like, how heavy or skinny they are, what color they are, how tall they are, how much money they make, whether one has a college degree and the other does not. If you are choosing a person for any other reason than the person and the personality, you are choosing the person for the wrong reasons.

    Unfortunately most people do this, and for that reason, we have a VERY high divorce rate.

  9. dabeaner profile image57
    dabeanerposted 7 years ago

    When they are lying down, it's all good, whoever is short or tall.

  10. timorous profile image86
    timorousposted 7 years ago

    I don't think it would matter, as long as they love each other for all the right reasons and feel comfortable in social situations.  People can think what they like..that's their problem.

    The only drawback might be making love while standing up.

    1. Ciel Clark profile image74
      Ciel Clarkposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      That's what footstools are for.

  11. Sunga profile image60
    Sungaposted 7 years ago

    My wife is taller than I and she likes high heels. Now we are in our 10th year of marriage.

    I have no issues with the height at all...

  12. IdeaMorphist profile image65
    IdeaMorphistposted 7 years ago

    Height does not matter. A man should marry a woman he loves enough to be faithful and truthful to.

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    Dog On A Missionposted 7 years ago

    My girlfriend and I are the same height. Tall women are hot.

  14. Bill's Ideas profile image61
    Bill's Ideasposted 7 years ago

    There is nothing wrong with a women being taller then a man. The only that counts is love. As long as there is love between them, nothing else matters.

  15. pisean282311 profile image60
    pisean282311posted 7 years ago

    who said that?..i know people who have married to taller women...may be its conditioning ...

  16. DryDiapersPlus profile image61
    DryDiapersPlusposted 7 years ago

    My husband is 5" shorter than me - and 1/2 my weight.  I refuse to wear heels because I don't want to cause us to look any more like Mutt & Jeff than we already do. 

    No, he wasn't the tall, dark, handsome man that I thought I would end up sharing my life with - but he is a good man and an excellent provider for his family.

    The only time I notice our height difference is when we're out dancing - and since that's only happened twice in our marriage (and we've been together 13 years....and we don't dance because sadly dancing is NOT one of  his strong points!).

    Oh - and I notice the height difference if we're out walking downtown - sidewalks - I always try to stand in the dip - so he won't be self-conscience....

    What was the ???? again???? I guess my point is - height really becomes a non-issue once you know the person well enough to date...become romantically involved....married.  Height may be an issue in the beginning - but if you're are the point of marriage - it really should be one of the last things you're concerned about.  If it is an issue - then maybe there are more issues to be concerned about BEFORE getting married.

  17. Ben Zoltak profile image84
    Ben Zoltakposted 7 years ago

    A man should never in any circumstances ever marry a woman who is taller than he is. Every  time he would like to eat a steak, this very tall wife of his could reach over and hold it above his head! Then what is the little man to do? What's more, if a short man marries a tall woman, he will have to start wearing 6 inch heals just to kiss his wife. Clearly a man would have trouble finding 6 inch heals that are manly enough, especially for a guy with a gigantic wife.

    On the other hand, if a short man marries a tall woman, he could buy a harness and use her height to his advantage, say, to shingle his roof, or to change light bulbs on a chandelier. Also, they could join a co-ed basketball team, and the very short husband would have a secret weapon in his gargantuanly tall wife. She could lift him to the rim whereby the minuscule husband could allee-oop the ball into the basket. Also, if the couple was ever in a flood, the very tall wife could lift her husband out of the rushing water, and act as a living island. Perhaps neighbors could tie knots to her ears and use her to save an entire village of shorter people.

  18. jewelforjesus profile image66
    jewelforjesusposted 7 years ago

    There really is no reason to justify why a man should not marry a woman taller than himself,unless he himself knows he'll find it an obstacle to their relationship.
    It all comes down to personal choice. After all, compatibility cannot be measured in terms of height or length  etc.

    I totally agree with Springboard's comments.

  19. C.V.Rajan profile image78
    C.V.Rajanposted 7 years ago

    Perhaps men don't want to be "looked down" by women.

  20. L3B0 profile image74
    L3B0posted 7 years ago

    Simple. Domination tongue, quite funny really...

  21. Cloud.Strife profile image60
    Cloud.Strifeposted 7 years ago

    because,when kissing,if the woman is taller than the man,she has to look down,but you know,only when a person looks up,her eyes look bigger and the the shape of the face look more pretty.
    so if you want to enjoy your girl more,don't make your gf taller than you.

  22. Velvet Vixen profile image60
    Velvet Vixenposted 7 years ago

    Hey, you are the same size in bed! Once you lay down the bodies seem to match up perfectly. Dont let height prevent you from the one you love.
    Short guys try harder.

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    user54522posted 7 years ago

    I will submit reasons that I generally disagree with or are disgusted by.  Marriage can be a "political" or status situation.  For people in a public spotlight, a person will be judged by who he/she knows.  For example, lets take the corporate dinner.  In my view of the corporate world, your mate is both a symbol and source of potential power or authority.  The whole trophy wife cliche demonstrates this pretty much to the bulls eye.
    So perhaps having a tall model of a wife will work to the advantage.  Or, it can make the male look less significant.  If a person is immune or disconnected by these social "things", then by all means, the height issue is moot

  24. profile image54
    SpaceAgeposted 7 years ago

    size doesn't matter as long as they truly love each other

  25. tangoshoes profile image61
    tangoshoesposted 7 years ago

    I hope this really doesn't matter much to men. I'm 6 foot tall!

  26. Anne Bonny profile image49
    Anne Bonnyposted 7 years ago

    1. True love knows no height.

    2. Everyone can see eye to eye when laying down


  27. MJFande profile image70
    MJFandeposted 7 years ago

    Well, for me (I'm 6'4"), it would be quite intimidating to stand next to a woman taller than myself. However, I do have a few friends that are dating women taller than they are. I'm not sure how they feel about it, but one of them is getting married soon.

  28. suny51 profile image57
    suny51posted 7 years ago

    as long as the pair finds no problem why should the questions be asked and answered, none of our business.There is no law a man should not or should marry or even not marry a woman taller or shorter than himself.
    this all depends on how the couple go with each other that alone matters.

  29. profile image49
    Poka Davidsposted 7 years ago

    When there is love heigt does not matter

  30. profile image61
    brtaiwoposted 7 years ago

    Because they chöose. Everyone has the right to choose want they want.

  31. ramkkasturi profile image59
    ramkkasturiposted 7 years ago

    It is very clear that he wants to look up to her.

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    Yimzeeposted 7 years ago

    Its somewhat funny looking up to talk to your wife. for me, height aint a barrier for marriage.

  33. Majidsiko profile image73
    Majidsikoposted 7 years ago

    I have married a taller woman and I have no problems with it. Its all about love and not physical attributes.

  34. 2 halfs = a whole profile image58
    2 halfs = a wholeposted 7 years ago

    I really dont think hight matters. You shouldnt care if your girlfriend/wife is taller. What really matters is if you like her personality.
    ~ Kacie

  35. Jennifer D. profile image76
    Jennifer D.posted 7 years ago

    I married a man taller than me. He was 6'6". There was lack of intimacy, trust and communication.

    Looks may matter in the beginning of a relationship (as attraction is a powerful force) but height certainly shouldn't be categorized as something that will make or break a relationship.
    If a man is secure with himself, then he should not be intimidated by a taller woman. I am six feet tall and am now with a man who is 5 foot 10 inches. Do you think that I mind bending slightly to kiss him? Do you think he minds reaching up a bit to kiss me? Not on your life!

    In the end, the basis of a great relationship has nothing to do with size, shape or color. Unless, of course, that person is shallow enough to limit their choices based upon looks.
    It is the depth of a person, compatibility of personalities, ability to trust, the similarity of values and  the feelings of intimacy that really matter.

  36. Lady Rose profile image76
    Lady Roseposted 7 years ago

    Lets face it. Most women like their men to be taller. it is a cultural, social, romantic, esthetic and traditional reason. If you marry a guy that is shorter than you, no matter how much you love each other, you will spend your life facing the reactions and comments of friends and relatives, associates, and even passers by.
    I  believe there is enough human beings in the world for each one to find their right match. Let the short guys marry shorter girls and they all will be happy. But if you are in love with the short guy, go for it anyway. He will look taller in spirit as long as he is superior to you in something that you can look up to him.

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    Taeohposted 7 years ago

    why does it matter??? if they're comfortable, then who cares!

    people get stuck in what society says is o.k. if your soul mate just so happens to be a 7' tall woman and you're only 5' then by all means be with her, because it makes you feel good! it comes down to whether you're willing to give up a chance at real happiness just to "save face" so to speak.

    I say marry her tall a** and BE HAPPY!

  38. RuA_05 profile image59
    RuA_05posted 7 years ago

    is not wrong for a man to marry a woman who is taller than him. what matters is if they truelly love each other, a man can be taller than taller than a woman and a woman can also be taller than man there is no problem about that with love any thing can happen

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    Bambinoposted 7 years ago

    I have been married 34 years to a man the same height as me when bare footed ...as soon as I put heels on however  I tower above him...this used to be an issue in our early courting days and i always wore flat shoes,even on our wedding day which was in the 70's,he wore ridiculously high platforms which made him taller than me by about 4 inches..we laugh about it now. Diana Princess of wales made flat shoes fashionable so i was bang up to date at that time .When we go dancing which isnt very often these days i just make sure I have shoes on which can easily be slipped off ,not a problem.

    So the answer from me on the question is..NO it shouldnt make any difference whatsoever how tall your partner is or isnt.!!!

  40. nadp profile image75
    nadpposted 7 years ago

    Growing up, I was tall for my age - even as a teenager.  So I usually was not attracted to guys who were short - but that was because of my insecurities.  Now, when I see a confident-looking man with a woman who is taller than he on his arm I admire the self-confidence they both have.

  41. nifty@50 profile image76
    nifty@50posted 7 years ago

    About the only reason I can see is the ridicule he receives from society. Which I don't think would stop the average guy. Society as a whole is becoming more acceptable to a shorter man marring a taller woman. Let's face it though for very short men the pickings can be very slim to where they almost have to marry a taller woman.

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    Raquelle30posted 7 years ago

    In retrospect, when you lie down, the height doesn't matter.. LOL.. However, being a taller woman, (5"9), that has dated a shorter man many moons ago, I found that the man suffered from what I like to call "Short man syndrome"-- He felt insecure about his own manhood causing him to be insecure about me being around other taller men.  Also for some of my other friends that have dated shorter men, they also had a similar perspective.  Perhaps it's coincidental... Regardless, in my eyes, love should have no boundaries, and love is certain.. .So, short men should marry whoever they want, and don't care about the masses...

    1. NiaLee profile image59
      NiaLeeposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I agree they try to overdo it in many department and are often unfaithful to prove themselves... when people have any inferiority complex, it can get really ugly!

  43. Origin profile image61
    Originposted 7 years ago

    I don't think height matters as long as they love each other. I've had a relationship with a woman that was taller than me before, and I didn't mind it either.

  44. raphael12345 profile image53
    raphael12345posted 7 years ago

    it doesnt matter as long as your in love smile

  45. gulnazahmad profile image66
    gulnazahmadposted 7 years ago

    I do not think that it matters that the girl is taller or the boy to the couple but to many other people in their surroundings. People like friends, far-relatives and peer group make fun of such thing which is not good.

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    iamqweenbeeposted 7 years ago

    Because if she is taller, then she might start to think she is the boss of him. Which nothing is wrong with that. Some men need bossing. NO PUN INTENDED

  47. Lifeallstar1 profile image60
    Lifeallstar1posted 7 years ago

    I don't think it matters unless she doesn't want to be with someone shorter or he doesn't want to be with someone taller. Could sex be an issue? :-) JK

  48. davidwagar profile image56
    davidwagarposted 7 years ago

    because this is really embarrassing whenever he be walking with his wife

  49. coolhubs profile image59
    coolhubsposted 7 years ago

    There is no reason not to. The bottom line is love strong enough to keep them together no matter what. Men  who are sold to this  idea are losers who suffer from inferirority complex.
    Would you rather have a wife shorter than you but does not make you happy? Its just like women who belief in marrying a rich man but find no happiness. Where there is true love is where to focus on  and not other ideology or materialistic gains.

  50. Ruchira profile image79
    Ruchiraposted 7 years ago

    Man likes it, if his woman is shorter 'cause that does not hurt his ego. If a woman in any respect has outweighed her man, there could be friction in their relationship. Unfortunately, it is still a male dominant world.