The care of the child is what comes first here.After the stepmom has made every effort to be civil and cooperative she need have no concern for someone who has apparently made an adverse reputation for herself. Jealousy causes people to do particularly unpleasant things so stepmom please be aware and observant when around this person then enjoy your family and holidays.
all of you just made my day! I find it hard sometimes to be the best stepmom I can be because of all of the eyes and stereotypes out there. I know one day my sweet stepkids will come to me and say "thanks." It's just the patience part that I hate... But there is hope! Just yesterday we dropped the kids off at their mom's house after spending time with them and my stepdaughter ran back to me and said, "i love you." I think that's progress.