Do you consider physical attractiveness to be the true motive when considering a

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   Jangaplanetposted 13 years ago

   Do you consider physical attractiveness to be the true motive when considering a partner?

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   kimfanerposted 13 years ago

   it could be a true motive for some-- or most-- people. it is a great start for a relationship and then evolves into something deeper. or am i just a superficial retard here?

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   Angel709posted 13 years ago

   I'm not taking any compromises when considering my future partner, so yes, I have to be physically attracted to him.  I don't consider this shallow, because this is just one of several traits I desire.  I plan to look at him most everyday for the rest of my life; he needs to be something I want to see.

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   Genna Eastposted 13 years ago

   Love chooses for us.  Inevitably, we neither choose nor decide who we fall in love with; it just is...and it is surprising.  So I'm not sure how much motive plays a role.

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   Giselle Maineposted 13 years ago

   For me it is initially personality and common interests that makes me want to be around someone. If they are physically attractive then it can develop beyond a friendship.  That is exactly what happened when I met my husband - at first I thought of him as a friend/brother who I had lots in common with, then I realized he was really attractive.  It totally worked out for both of us.  So to answer your question, no, physical attractiveness is not the initial motive... but it cannot be completely absent from the relationship with a partner.

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   barbergirl28posted 13 years ago

   Yes... because if you are not physically attracted to the person, you will probably not walk over there and talk to them. Therefore, you may never actually find their personality.
   
   On the other hand, if you have known someone for awhile, they may start to become attractive to you. It wasn't the true motive when you first met them, but then again, you weren't considering them to be a partner at first either.

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   Sarah Massonposted 13 years ago

   I think personality is the most important thing but you have to be attracted to the person in some way otherwise it wouldn't work

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   freedomfromfearposted 13 years ago

   "True motive"? I don't think it could or should be the "true" motive of making the decision for a partner. It might be a component for considering, but more importantly than physical chemistry is compatibility. They can be the finest thing you ever saw but if they are mean or cruel, what would it matter? My experience has taught me that the number one requirement for picking a partner is their ability to be honest about themselves and take responsibility for their choices. In other words, they don't make me responsible for their happiness.

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