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Should physical attractiveness be a major factor when selecting a mate?

  1. Esenbee profile image60
    Esenbeeposted 3 years ago

    Should physical attractiveness be a major factor when selecting a mate?

  2. junkseller profile image85
    junksellerposted 3 years ago

    Some people when shopping for cars will start off being purely concerned with looks. They may look through a few thousand of them before finding the one with the proper curb appeal to knock their socks off and they may never worry to much with how it drives, maintenance, etc. Nothing wrong if that's what works for them.

    Me personally, I can't pretend that there aren't some cars that just won't appeal to me, it isn't my biggest concern. I'm much more interested in peeking under the hood and kicking the tires and in something which is low maintenance. Not because it matters in itself, but simply because I'd rather be out playing than in the shop for half the day. Ultimately what matters is if you hop in and she gives you a good ride. If that's the case then a few dents and rust spots don't really matter.

    And once in awhile, such as after a really hard day, or for no particular reason at all, I'll break out my bucket and soap, and spend the afternoon washing and waxing and buffing her as best I can and then tell her she's the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. And she will be, not because of how posters of ourselves would look on the wall, but because she is my speed machine that sends me flying.

    1. Esenbee profile image60
      Esenbeeposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Wow, I like how you metaphorically used the idea of purchasing and taking care of a vehicle to selecting a mate solely based on physical attraction. Good answer!

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    Richie Alburoposted 3 years ago

    For me it is not the appearance that counts.As long as you have good character,a sense of humor,always smiling and God fearing person,You are a winner.

    1. Esenbee profile image60
      Esenbeeposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Cool, that's very nice. Thanks for your answer.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Everyone wants to be with the best looking person or thing they can have (in addition) to numerous other traits/characteristics. We all have our point system where certain things may makeup for the lack of other things.
    However everyone wants their mate to find them attractive!
    Life is a personal journey. Ultimately no one can tell you what you "should" like or what makes (you) happy. Each of us gets to choose our own friends, lovers, and spouse and not everyone is going to make the cut. We're attracted to each other for various reasons.
    Never allow someone to shame you into using (their) "shopping list" by calling you shallow. You're entitled to have (your own) preferences. Some guys are not attracted to overweight women and some women are not attracted to men who are shorter than them....etc Such is life!
    Selecting a mate especially one for life should not be an "acquired taste". If you're not attracted to the person you're with generally speaking it's only a matter of time before your eyes start to wander.
    It goes without saying that it takes (more) than good looks to have a happy/successful relationship but ignoring something that is important to you will also never make you happy.

    1. Esenbee profile image60
      Esenbeeposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I totally agree with you!! Thanks for your answer!

  5. Cyndy24 profile image60
    Cyndy24posted 3 years ago

    I would answer yes to your question unless you plan on having a mate with whom you have a platonic relationship with. I don't know that physical attraction should be a "major" factor though. Add to the equation the fact that someone with an awesome personality often makes them seem more attractive. Whereas someone with a horrible personality can take away any attractiveness they may have had.

    1. Esenbee profile image60
      Esenbeeposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your answer!!

 
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