Why is it easier to not trust someone but when you do trust them it just brings fear?
Trust has to be earned. If it is earned then there won't be fear. But you have to give someone a chance for them to earn your trust, and that part is scary because it means opening yourself up to the possiblility of being hurt. But giving someone a chance is not the same as really trusting them.
I think because it is always "easier" to make yourself less vulnerable. When you choose to trust someone, you make yourself vulnerable; hence, the fear. When trust is earned, the fear of vulnerability should eventually diminish.
I think most fear derives from ghosts of our past. We may seek to be free from them, but experience makes us what we are. Besides, fear, if controlled, is a healthy emotion. On the other hand, being skeptical and jaded is not. Your question itself, shows me you are not jaded.
Trust like Respect has to be earned.
Trust should only be given to someone who has proven to you they lead their life with honesty and integrity.
If you trust someone you will not have "fear".
If you do have fear it may be that you don't trust (yourself) enough to choose trustworthy people.
Only introspective thinking, time, experience, and wisdom can remedy that.
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