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How do you feel about the stat that 1 in every 5 divorces are caused by cyber af

  1. Lady MJ profile image78
    Lady MJposted 7 years ago

    How do you feel about the stat that 1 in every 5 divorces are caused by cyber affairs?

  2. tritrain profile image85
    tritrainposted 7 years ago

    It doesn't surprise me.  Meeting online is the way most people meet and it's an easy "replacement" for a spouse.

    It shouldn't be this way.

  3. Jaynie2000 profile image91
    Jaynie2000posted 7 years ago

    I think how they are caused is irrelevant. Divorce can be tragic either way. Online affairs are just an extension of the in-person affair and are a factor in today's marriages because of the popularity and accessibility of the internet. If there was no internet, many of the people who engaged in cyber affairs would likely have found other ways to destroy their marriages.

  4. HattieMattieMae profile image61
    HattieMattieMaeposted 7 years ago

    They happen, I've watched enough of them on Second Life. Feel it is monopolizing the scene and of course as long as they do it, and no one makes a fuss it will affect relationships and families. Fortunately if people don't start paying attention to each other and investing in quality time in one another, it will become 1 out of 2. I've watched it for 3 years on Facebook, Second Life, My yearbook, My space. It's going on every where.  The lack of love and unconditional ove at that.

  5. Paul Kohler profile image60
    Paul Kohlerposted 7 years ago

    I feel it's a sad truth, in this day and age of facebook and myspace so many people are re-connecting with the people in their past lives, and it is easy to fall prey to old feelings. Plus when flirting and more is done in the cyber world the first words out of the offenders mouth is that they believe it's 'harmless' when they don't realize how many people can get hurt.

  6. alwayzzcitra profile image57
    alwayzzcitraposted 7 years ago

    It kinds of makes me sad. I'm a family oriented person, it's I still can't get it why some people, especially who has no problem in their marriage, have the guts the cheat on their spouse for someone over the internet.

    I mean, their spouse have been with them through the good and bad times. Now I really want to know what the "other lover" offers that makes them leave their spouse without a second thought.

    Leaving someone in real life for a virtual partner irks so much. However, it's not the internet to blame, it's their own faut. I'm on the internet for more than 6 hours a day, and I don't cheat, I never will.

    Interesting question!

  7. Silverspeeder profile image62
    Silverspeederposted 7 years ago

    It doesn't matter if you meet someone online or in the street if it going to happen then it will happen. It is more unlikely for people to stay together until death parts them than it has ever been. It seems no matter how many times people are told that the grass isn't greener on the other side they still wont believe it until they have mown it for themselves.
    It's more likely to happen if you are looking though!

  8. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

    Cheating and having affairs has been going on long before there were computers, social networks, or texting via cell phones.
    When affairs begin in the work place no one says the divorce was caused because a person had a job.

    Affairs/cheating like everything else evolves with the times.

    The cause of the divorce is not the technology/tool used.
    People appear to want to blame tool for existing.
    Awhile back I wrote a hub on this subject called,

    The only thing technology has done is make it "easier" for those (who want to cheat) to be able to cruise the web at home/work looking for love/lust as oppose to having leave the house.

    They don't have to make excuses to go out to nightclubs or bars.
    However when you get right down to it (the person) makes the choice to use his/her computer anyway they see fit.

    "A fork can be used to eat a salad or to eat a large hunk of double fudge chocolate cake!"

    Cheating is a choice.

  9. davidseeger profile image61
    davidseegerposted 7 years ago

    Why did people get divorces before the cyber effect?

  10. Dovay Lee profile image37
    Dovay Leeposted 7 years ago

    I do not think  it is the cyber affairs cased the divorces. There is no direct relationship between them. I think Love and royal matters a lot in hubman life.

  11. ravenlt04 profile image62
    ravenlt04posted 7 years ago

    Hmm...  Very interesting....  I could see that.  Cyberspace can cause many issues!  I think people use cyberspace to feed their alteregos that would otherwise not be satisfied.

  12. chaunatye profile image60
    chaunatyeposted 7 years ago

    I think it's nuts. My best freinds parents divorced because of this. Her mom hooked up with some guy from Florida off of some game website, she went to meet him and he ditched. Pretty sad, I didn't realize the stat was that high!

  13. The Taco Tagger profile image59
    The Taco Taggerposted 7 years ago

    Well, in connection to your question about Facebook, I think a lot of it has to do with how easily it is to connect with someone now. All you have to do is talk to someone at the push of a key, and poof, you can have a relationship as easy as that.

    The reality, unfortunately, is that just because you can make a relationship work on the internet, doesn't mean that it will work outside of the web. If someone that is married, goes online and falls in love with someone else quickly then there are probably some underlying problems in their current relationship as it is and that person is trying to escape. It's a sad reality that is becoming ever more common.

  14. stricktlydating profile image84
    stricktlydatingposted 7 years ago

    If that's true then there must be a lot of married people sitting alone at their computer in order to find and maintain contact with an online lover.

  15. Loving_Life profile image57
    Loving_Lifeposted 7 years ago

    I agree with some of the other peoples answers here.

    Affairs have been going on alot longer than the internet came, BUT the internet just makes it easier for people to have affairs.