how to tell someone you love them

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  1. HubPages profile imageSTAFF
    HubPagesposted 14 years ago

    how to tell someone you love them

  2. Freedom Adviser profile image56
    Freedom Adviserposted 14 years ago

    If you are not that expressive like me, try to let them know by giving them a card or letter. It is the easiest thing to do for those who are not showy. Aside from that, show your love through your action. As the adage goes, action speaks louder than word. Hug them as if they thought your are joking at them, give them a favor by providing aid, and the most important is—spend some time with them. Time signifies love. If you love someone/something you will spend time with it. How could you tell a person is a music lover? If that person constantly listening to music, always watch mtv, attends a concert, etc. So make sure you have time for them. Even if you do not tell them how you love them, they already know. Because you made them feel it.

  3. Lucey Knight profile image59
    Lucey Knightposted 14 years ago

    Learning new and creative ways to show someone how you feel about them. read more

  4. profile image57
    Stacy Redmondposted 14 years ago

    How to tell someone you love them...

    Too often is 'I love you' thrown out with little care and little attention to detail. The actual words in today's climate mean nothing but the old romantic in me says this...

    1. Make eye contact and force them to keep it until they are unable to look away.
    2. Touch the person, something simple like on the cheek or on the arm. Take a hand.
    3. Wear your heart on your sleeve. Its hard but do it.
    4. Let you emotions flow into your eyes.
    5. Believe what you are saying.

    Then say it.
    The best indicator that they have been moved by your declaration is to see if they swallow. It speaks volumes but what those volumes are... well that depends on the receiver.

  5. NZUNG SERAPHINE profile image61
    NZUNG SERAPHINEposted 14 years ago

    Always remember to send them  nice gifts  on their birthdays .Always appreciate the nice things they do and always try to be by them in moments of happiness and sadness.

  6. bliss finder profile image60
    bliss finderposted 14 years ago

    I shall have to assume that you meant the question literally: how to verbalize to someone the words “I love you”. If you intended to ask: how to let someone know you love them well, that is an entirely different topic.
    Here is my answer: You can tell someone you love them, let’s say for the first time, at any moment. It may be a whole romantic production such as at a nice restaurant over desert, while taking a walk together in the park etc…you get the idea. It may also be a spontaneous moment such as while that person folds laundry or smack in the middle of a conversation on a non related topic.
    Now here are some definite don’ts so that your big moment isn’t ruined by that person responding “What did you say?” or “Did you say something?”. Assuming that person is at least appreciative if not reciprocal to your feelings and is not asking those questions to buy some time for their reaction/answer, do not say “I love you” over the phone (not for the first time), do not say it in a really loud place such as a club or while they vacuum, do not write it unless you are right there next to them when they read it. Saying “I love you” for the first time should be accompanied by looking the person in the eyes, it makes it feel sincere and has a greater impact since a lot can be read in someone’s “window to the soul”.
    After the statement “I love you” has been established in your relationship, I believe it is well received anywhere, anytime, as often as one is inclined to say it.

  7. Queen_Kevyn95 profile image58
    Queen_Kevyn95posted 14 years ago

    if you don't have the nerve to just flat out say, "i love you" ... which i do believe that you should, because in the end it means a great deal more... you should ask them how they feel about you, and let them know how strongly you feel about them, whether this is with a kiss, gift, or special date of some kind.  you know what makes this person happy, so go with what you know.  when you give them your gift or whatever you are offering, just work up your nerves and say, "i love you, (insert name here)"
    this makes it a lot easier to admit. smile
    best of luck!

  8. bayareagreatthing profile image60
    bayareagreatthingposted 14 years ago

    I think that you tell someone you love them when you say "i'm sorry" when you have wronged them  When you are patient with them.  You say I love you when you encourage someone who is feeling down.  You listen deeply to them when they are talking. You tell them they look more beautiful than when you first met.  You make them a cup of tea and offer a foot rub.  You surprise them with a love note in their lunch.  There are so many little things that say "I love you" that are small acts of kindness we have opportunities for everyday! … n-marriage

  9. sbrown1703 profile image56
    sbrown1703posted 14 years ago


  10. Our Advice 2 You profile image57
    Our Advice 2 Youposted 14 years ago

    Actions speak louder than words. This is not to say that words aren't needed as well. I express my love to my wife by helping with the children, house work, keeping the family car cleaned,back rubs, foot rubs, and when we make love it is done in  a slow pace honoring one another knowing that I must meet her needs and she meets mine.
    Her birthday and anniversary is always remembered. A flower often given. And as a Christian, God has taught me all of this because I cared enough about our relationship to find out. A friend of ours gave us a book called, His Needs Her Needs. Take my advice and read it.

    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Love never fails.

    The Holy Bible:1 Corinthians 13 (New International Version)

  11. ftwells profile image61
    ftwellsposted 14 years ago

    The ones I love are reminded that I love them because I say, "I love you " frequently. They know me, therefore they know I would not say this unless I really meant it. I remind them of this fact of life every day, but especially whenever, when they are feeling down, stressed, and/or just need support. This usually involves some physical contact, like a hug, a kiss. I try to be there for them, and support them when they are experiencing some major trauma in their lives. 
         To me, you let the ones you love know that you love them by being their for them, in both bad and good times. By sitting with them and just listening; By giving of your time, (e.g., staying with them instead of going out with your friends); by rejoicing with them when they are happy, comforting them when they are sad; When my mom was diagnosed with cancer, I went to all of her chemos with her, I was there when they told her they had not worked. I held and tried to comfort her when she was upset and afraid. When she was dying, I spent days sitting by her bed holding her hand, and stroking her face, her 'hair'. Always telling her how much I loved her.

  12. advisor4qb profile image75
    advisor4qbposted 14 years ago

    Show them.  You can say it all you want, but it is your actions that speak volumes.  Do whatever you can to help them.  If you see them struggling with something, drop everything to help them.  If you have extra money, spend it on them.  Take their picture.  Have total strangers take pictures of you together (be sure they don't make off with your camera, though!!).  Display the pictures so that you can both see them whenever you want, maybe even make a scrapbook of your special times together. 

    Follow your heart.  Words are good to accompany the actions, but they hit home when the person feels it.  Cheers!

  13. Silver Poet profile image71
    Silver Poetposted 14 years ago

    Most of the time people know if they are loved by the things we do and by our attitudes about them, which are clearly visible and are communicated non-verbally.

    Gifts, greeting cards, acts of kindness, and spending time with a person are all forms of communication that let someone know how you feel.

  14. profile image52
    blong72posted 14 years ago

    show it and then prove it with your actions. Words are words people dont always mean what they say.

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    Ask Desireeposted 13 years ago

    Love Is The Trust between two People The Simplicity and Bliss Of Spending Special Moments With the one that you Hold deep To your Heart! When you Feel Like Thats The person I want to spend The rest of your Life With!

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    jkbensenposted 13 years ago

    I would start out by saying full heartedly that you love the person. Besides doing things from the one you love  is more appropriate to use when you are trying to tell someone you love them. Dont throw the word out...I love you .. the word is stronger than some may know... I hope my advice helped.

  17. Springboard profile image81
    Springboardposted 13 years ago

    This may sound a bit mushy, so please pardon me in advance.

    When my wife and I were still dating, we never really called ourselves girlfriend and boyfriend, or anything like that. We were sitting in a restaurant one day after a few months of dating and I asked her, "So, what do we call ourselves?"

    "I don't know," she said. "My friends at work say you and I are an 'item.'"

    Then on a trip we took to Branson, we were walking around a little shop on the main strip and I found this tiny wooden box with a little ladybug with springy legs that wiggled around when you shook the box, on the inside of the lid it simply said "I" then had the shape of a heart, "You." I brought it over to my now wife and said, "Get a load of this."

    She looked at it, then looked up at me and asked, with a smile, "Are you trying to tell me something."

    "I don't know," I said and winked. "Maybe."

    The point is that you don't really necessarily have to say it all the time, although I tell my wife all the time. There are actions and little things you can do to show it.

  18. rahat.infinite profile image59
    rahat.infiniteposted 13 years ago

    If loving some one, do not wait. Just go and tell him/her

    Today's era, writing stuff is good. Write you love him/her

    or better, in a decent way. express your love verbally with detail reason and future aspects

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    dracaslairposted 13 years ago

    well if my sure of it.i just sit the person down and talk about feelings.

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    sherrilynn123posted 13 years ago

    Can I trust you with my heart...With your heart..and mean it..

  21. cory39rocha profile image60
    cory39rochaposted 13 years ago

    First of all the thing is what is love according to you. Are you getting close just for fun or you really need him after you decided just observe the feeling and just stay on this.

    First of all show him that you are the one who can hold his hand for life time make him feel that you are a nice person.

    Do not give lots of gift to him just little one so that he or she should not mean that you are trying to do over.

    Just take him towards with you hold his hand and tell the feeling of your heart and every thing that you feel.

    And say that i love you and i will not leave you for all my life.

  22. Jaynie2000 profile image86
    Jaynie2000posted 13 years ago

    The old adage, "actions speak louder than words," applies here, I think. We express our love in a variety of ways, but our actions reinforce what our words are trying to convey. If I say, "I love you," but I am unkind to you, unconcerned with your feelings, dismissive, belittling or otherwise a poor partner, you may doubt the sincerity of my words.

    Love is about respect and trust. It is conveyed through little, almost imperceptible gestures, a look, a touch, a smile.

    Love doesn't have to be hearts, flowers and chocolates. Those are cliches often over-used by people who are failed by words and unable to wear their emotions on their sleeves.

    I am not suggesting that small gifts and saying "I love you" are poor expressions. I am merely suggesting that it is everyday actions that go a lot further toward making our partners "feel" that love.

    In the song, "Chasing Cars," by Snow Patrol, there is a line that goes, "...Those three words, are said too much, but not enough." There is deep meaning in that if you think about it. And I think that meaning underscores my point about allowing your actions to supplement and reinforce those words.

    So here's to love!

  23. segal profile image60
    segalposted 12 years ago

    if u r in a true love no need to say that "I LOVE YOU" your eyes will say it to him/her,your smile and your attitude will say it all.

  24. DiverBlog11 profile image57
    DiverBlog11posted 12 years ago

    Simply by looking them straight in the eyes , then you speak the words, I love you. Say it with passion so they really feel you mean it.

  25. ketchup101 profile image59
    ketchup101posted 12 years ago

    be sincere..make sure that you mean what you say..that's all!

  26. dmvjane profile image59
    dmvjaneposted 10 years ago

    I love you. You got a problem with that? It's okay if you don't love me back. This love doesn't have to be reciprocated but if you will that's a bonus that exceeds the rewarding feeling of loving you.

  27. AdrienChelsea profile image59
    AdrienChelseaposted 7 years ago

    There are a lot of different ways to show someone you love them.  Sometimes it is easier to show how you love someone instead of saying it, but is so important so say it!  If you know the persons love language it will help you tell and show them that you love them. The five types of love languages are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.  Sometimes it takes trial and error to find out what your love needs but once you find out focus on the ways that make them feel loved the most.  Saying I love you is so scary and exciting!


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