How would you deal with an Adult Toxic Family member?
What I mean by toxic is a family member who is financially, mentally, emotionally draining.
Don't deal with them, just ignore them. But then if you have a moral obligation to them, like it is your parents, maximum tolerance is needed. Most just need tender loving care.
I agree with the answer; do not deal with them. I have a ATF in the family and we finally - after a lot of heartache - had to cut him out. We still hold out hope he will get better and find his feet again but can no longer watch him crash and burn.
You can't allow yourself to be pulled down along with them just because you feel morally obligated to do so due to blood relation.
"It's your life! Take the wheel!" Each of us is responsible for our own happiness.
You have the right to choose who you want to spend time with. Guilt is just a form of manipulation. Don't let someone talk you into being some place you don't want to be. Your life comes down to the choices and decisions that YOU make.
Once you get to a point where you stop worrrying about what others think you are truly free to be your "authentic self". That is the only way we find true happiness and peace of mind.
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