How do we please someone who acts as though nothing is ever good enough?
How do we tolerate, co-exist or simply accept when you share your life with someone who makes you feel despite all efforts, you normally fall just short of success? What techniques can we use to either show them this ridiculous expectations are never within reach or at least teach ourself how to not let it hurt our own self esteem.
The most important thing here is to realize that you have no control over somebody else, or their expectations. The only thing we can do, is the best we can. If, for whatever reason, our efforts are not appreciated or good enough for someone else, then that is simply their problem. The fact that you make an effort to please someone else shows you've tried. The techniques are simple: be you. And if that is not good enough, what more "can" you do? You have to be good enough for you...period. Nobody can give you self esteem, you have to find it from within - and if you don't have any, or your self esteem is low, you should find out why. I would say to simply stop worrying about trying to please somebody else so much to the point of hurting yourself.
Best advice is to stop trying. Some people can never be pleased, so why would you keep trying to do something that can't be done? Make your life easier and leave this person out of it.
Never forget we always have a choice of whom we spend our time with.
I suspect after a while the individual will ask you why you stopped coming around or pulled away. Most likely once you explain that you won't be around much unless things change that's when you'll learn how much they value your efforts.
People can only mistreat us if we allow them. We are where we want to be.
I have that feeling in my relationship. I hate it. I feel like 5 years just passed me by. Makes you feel torn down and topping it with the cheating and our house hold computer being encrypted makes me feel just ugly. Take care girl your beautiful.
Ignore them.. People like that that care about people who like them.. They want to be friends with people who don't give a damn about them.. They believe people who love them has little or nothing to give them rather than pamper them and prove to them that they love them, why those who careless about them makes them curious and they are in die need to find out what's so special about these people and why is it that they careless about me when everyone is dying to love me
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