Why do families fail to mention ex spouses in obituaries when children exist from union with dec?
Not to sound rude, as that is not my intent, but why should they? The ex-spouse is just that: an EX. Very, very few people who divorce did so because the relationship was good; it was intended to sever the ties. While they may have mutual children, the marriage is over and thus the status as "survived by" or "proceeded in death by" is inappropriate as applied to an ex-spouse.
I mean, the children didn't keep the ties that bind in life so why should they in death?
Many of those deceased will also have a new spouse. To list an ex-spouse could be an insult.
Bottom line, it's really a matter of personal choice (if arrangements are made previously) or those surviving, but there is no room for an ex's input.
(Really, please don't take this as rude. There just seems to be no nice way to say this. lol)
I agree with Kim's answer in that usually an ex spouse has moved on, and in most cases, one or both exes have remarried. The life and times that they shared together are no more.
I don't believe it is disrespectful not to include an ex spouse in an obituary. I am divorced. My ex and I have children together. That's just it; we will always have children in common. Even though our bonds have been broken, his with his children will never be.
If he should die before I do, I would not wish to be listed in his obituary. It's nothing personal against him and certainly not any unforgiveness; I just don't see the point of it.
My answer really isn't much differnt. Obituaries provide readers with a list of family members...an ex is not family. What would be written exactly? "My ex-husband..." "My children's father..." "The guy I thought I would spend the rest of my life with but didn't..."
Thanks for the great answers. I asked the question as two men whose ex-wives died, came cross country to attend the funerals to support their adult children. I thought their names should be in the obituaries. Both were problems when it came to child support. So I guess you may be right, that their names should not be there.
by ngureco 7 months ago
Should a wife allow her husband to attend the funeral of ex-wife who divorced him 15 years ago?
by dashingscorpio 4 years ago
Would it upset you if you learned your husband or wife gave their (ex) money to help them out?Assuming his or her ex came to them asking for money or simply told them they were having a hard time. Would it upset you to learn your spouse withdrew money from an account to give to their ex? Would it...
by Laura Schneider 5 years ago
Are you still friends with your ex-spouse?If so, are you just friends "because of the kids" or are you truly friends? Do you still see the value in the other person? Do you entertain together or attend social activities together?If you are still friends, do you think this is healthy or...
by Liv Carradine 7 years ago
Are there any men out there who hate men that cheat on their spouses?
by lkeipp 9 years ago
Why do so many people dislike their spouses?Seriously, if you dislike the person, why stay married to them? I see so many couples who can't stand each other anymore, Finances and family aside, why stay together and unhappy?
by RealityTalk 6 years ago
What is your secret for getting along with your ex-spouseI have not seen or spoken with my ex-spouse in over 20 years. I know many divorce couples however who come to sporting events, and other events, together - maybe in separate cars - but they attend the events and remain civil to each...
HubPages Inc, a part of Maven Inc.
|HubPages Device ID|
|Login||This is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.|
|HubPages Google Analytics|
|HubPages Traffic Pixel|
|Google Hosted Libraries|
|Google AdSense Host API|
|Conversion Tracking Pixels|
|Author Google Analytics|
|Amazon Tracking Pixel|