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What is your best advice for people looking for love over 50?

  1. K9keystrokes profile image91
    K9keystrokesposted 6 years ago

    What is your best advice for people looking for love over 50?

  2. Curiad profile image78
    Curiadposted 6 years ago

    If you look for love it will elude you. Look first to your inner self and learn to love that, then as you go about your daily life love will find you.

  3. pmarshall1962 profile image60
    pmarshall1962posted 6 years ago

    I believe relationships are harder when over the age of 40.  You might think since the kids are grown and you have more free time, it would be easier.  Please note that not only are you set in your ways, so is the other person.  The give-and-take needs to worked on more now then ever.

    Established people do not have the innocence and care-free nature we had at 20. We are not just starting life: example:  how do you spend your holidays?  Can you still do that, are you willing to change, are all family members willing to accept the changes?  All of a sudden I was cooking for 25 people and cooking was never an interest of mine, but I was willing to change (although the cooking is still in question).

    Move SLOW.  Date for a long time.  Don't be exclusive right away and keep time for friends and yourself.  And I do not recommend dating right after a divorce or death of a loved one (or to date anyone in that catagory).  I realize that I did not follow my own advise, but i can say from experience that the roller coaster ride was a huge struggle.  An important point, in divorce you know that the couple couldn't overcome their issues and parted.  A widow/widower still has love for that person, which will always be there and be treasured.  Can you live with that?   

    Now, don't believe it when a person says "I was with my partner for 10 years and never cheated so I'm clean".  You do not know what happened on the other side.  We have enough health issues without adding a sexually transmitted one to the equation. 

    Old saying is "I would rather be happy and single than married and miserable". 

    Oh, and it is my opinion that free dating sites are questionable, but professional sites are great, also check with friends or look online for old school chums.  If nothing else, you will have more friends to add to your Facebook!!!

  4. SakuraMillie profile image58
    SakuraMillieposted 6 years ago

    Make lots of friends anyway you can!! The best relationship at any age always starts with a good friendship.
    Put yourself on dating websites. Most people these days have more luck finding a loved one online than in real life. I met the love of my life that way! Just make sure you take precautions so that you know who you are actually talking to online.
    There are websites for 'mature' adults but I honestly don't believe age makes a difference. Its hard at any age to find true love.
    Wish you the best in your hunt!!!!

  5. athena2011 profile image57
    athena2011posted 6 years ago

    It seems that nowadays it is becoming more accepted to look for love using online dating websites (not just for people over 50 either, but any age) . A friend of mine recently told me that Match.com is for those looking to fool around but that eHarmony is more serious people looking for lasting relationships.

    I have no way of knowing if this is true or not, but she did find he new husband on eHarmony so I guess she was speaking from experience. Hope this helps and I wish you the best in your search.

  6. Cool Banana profile image59
    Cool Bananaposted 6 years ago

    Internet dating seems to be a great way for people over 50 to find love.

  7. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    Be yourself! Also be open to using tools such as "quality dating websites" and get out of the house to do things you enjoy! Happiness attracts and negativity repels people. Take a fun class or join a club that shares your same interest. Honestly with 7 billion walking the planet it's almost impossible not to meet someone! the thing that holds people back the most is they want love to show up at their front door. Action is required to have anything in life. Even a lottery winner has to buy a ticket!
    You have to put yourself in a place where the kind of person you'd like to meet would congregate. Awhile back I wrote a hub that offers more details. Best of luck!
    http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … -Your-life

  8. alisha4u profile image38
    alisha4uposted 6 years ago

    I would only say, "Keep the 'Hunt On' Gentlemen !!"