What is your best advice for a happy marriage?

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  1. Wayne Brown profile image82
    Wayne Brownposted 12 years ago

    What is your best advice for a happy marriage?

  2. thehatter profile image63
    thehatterposted 12 years ago

    Talk. Talk to each other about everything. I know it sounds easy but too many couples seem to get caught up in work, television, etc and don't actually communicate.

  3. humili profile image60
    humiliposted 12 years ago

    Respect , trust, common goals and lifestyle!

  4. Stina Caxe profile image81
    Stina Caxeposted 12 years ago

    My mom once told me that she and my stepfather have a great relationship because even when they disagree they never put each other down.  There's no reason to insult the one you love.

  5. krillco profile image87
    krillcoposted 12 years ago

    Ignore the naive issues of 'better communication', or 'spending more time together', or 'validate each other', or 'compromise'. Though these can be good and positive, these will not keep you. Rather, learn to differentiate, work as self growth, learn to self validate, and increase your tolerance for intimacy.

  6. ChristineVianello profile image61
    ChristineVianelloposted 12 years ago

    I am going to get married in October and many people tell me that trust, and love. I agree.

  7. profile image0
    bhaveshdhanani03posted 12 years ago

    Know each other very well, help every moment & last respect each other is the key of happy marriage life.

  8. sonia05 profile image61
    sonia05posted 12 years ago

    Communication is the key alongwith respect for each other. One should agree to disagree!! Giving ample space to ones partner and being understanding and caring would certainly pave the way for a happy marriage!

  9. mydubaistay profile image61
    mydubaistayposted 12 years ago

    Don't lie..As simple as it sounds its the most difficult thing to do. But remember lies don't travel far they may work for the time being but the moment truth is revealed your relationship will definitely suffer. If you don't want to answer tell her/him but don't lie.
    On a personal note, I hate liars but all around me. I see just liars and pretentious people.

  10. fundguru profile image60
    fundguruposted 12 years ago

    I would say it always depends on the partner. Every person is an individual and so it is difficult to say in general what works and what don´t.

    From my point of view it is important to listen to a partner and treat a partner with respect. In a relationship it is then important to set cornerstones in order that both partners can remember such events even when they grow old.

    I personally think that it is also important in a relationship that both partners have separated roles in the family, especially if children are involved. 

    Well and I guess for a man one of the very important things in a relationship is to have his own room to retreat or a garden to work in order to avoid sticking always together. 

    And of course the choice of friends will have influence on the development of a relationship.

  11. supplies expert profile image60
    supplies expertposted 12 years ago

    honesty, open communication and putting the others needs first.

  12. earnings33 profile image41
    earnings33posted 12 years ago

    My best advice for a happy marriage is to maintain the trust and believe in both the persons. Husband and wife must built a peak of believe in each other never anyone's trust. Love each other more than anything else. That will definitley longer their relationship and trust. Stand with each others at ever dangerous or problematic moments.

  13. Edoka Writes profile image60
    Edoka Writesposted 12 years ago

    To be best friends before you're even in a relationship, because when times are bad you can know your spouse well enough to properly work through issues. Also, you're less likely to leave your best friend; the bond is different.

  14. Tirzah Laughs profile image60
    Tirzah Laughsposted 12 years ago

    Marry a person you truly like who truly likes the real you. 

    Lust will fade.  Love will change.  But if you truly like someone and when something fun happens, you think "I can't wait to tell...'...that's what you look for.

    Praise the little and big things they do right instead of dwelling on the things they do wrong.   People who get praise for good things, do more good things. smile

    Be honest without cruelty.   Be clear and don't give hints as to what you want or need.  No one can read minds.

    Don't take them for granted or allow them to take you for granted.

    Never stop dating even if that date is only once a month.  On that date, do not talk about household chores or kids.  Go do something fun together.

    Give each other space.   You should have friends, they should have friends.  Not every friend you have should be shared.   A well balanced person trusting person is okay with girls or guys night out.

    Talk about finances and kids before you have or share either.   Someone who saves for a rainy day may be driven crazy for someone who spends in the moment.  Neither is wrong in moderation but it can be hard to find a middle ground.

    Talk about kids before you have them.  Do you agree on how they are raised, punishments, teachings, splitting of the chores?   Kids are a DRASTIC change and can crush a weak marriage.  Be on solid ground before you have one.

  15. profile image53
    Sman1999Smanposted 12 years ago

    I would do what ever your wife says and never cheat on her

  16. mrshinyshoes profile image61
    mrshinyshoesposted 12 years ago

    Do what the little lady tells you.  I always submit, and the woman always defeats me in the Battle of the Sexes.  Ugh.   Lol.

  17. tritrain profile image70
    tritrainposted 12 years ago

    Realize that there will be ups and downs during it.

    Actively work on being involved in the relationship and keep communication healthy and respectful.

    Laugh together.

  18. Online Money 101 profile image60
    Online Money 101posted 12 years ago

    “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”

    Friedrich Nietzsche

  19. MR MARTINS. profile image60
    MR MARTINS.posted 12 years ago

    i congratulate and thank GOD for you for  giving you the best woman on this planet earth.Mind you,there is no one that could ever be compared with her.
    My best advice for you people is to always appreciate one another and never doing what you cannot accept from your partner,and more importantly,invite GOD into you home for guide and i  welcome you into the best home.pls try this and see.It works fr every home and am sure yours will never be left out.

  20. poorconservative1 profile image60
    poorconservative1posted 12 years ago

    Yes, Communication, love, trust, respect, these all have to be in place in order to have a good relationship. Weather that relationship is a marriage or other but remember this; separation and/or divorce happens when you decide that your pride is more important than your spouse.

  21. RosieG profile image61
    RosieGposted 12 years ago

    Commitment to the relationship, Honour one another. Be kind to one another.

    Deal with life controlling problems, gambling, drinking, substance abuse. These things will destroy relationships.

    Agree how you will spend your money, we are all different and you have to work it out together.

    Take responsibility for your own issues not the other persons.

    Change yourself not them.

    Always Always be kind, be gentle, be courteous. 
    If you are angry speak plainly but kindly.

    Each one do what is best for the other.

    Understand that life can throw many curved balls.  There can be sickness, loss, financial hardship.  If we determine to face whatever life throws at us together as a team we will survive all these things and build a strong life together.

  22. bparashar profile image59
    bparasharposted 12 years ago

    Trust each other and work hard to create that trust...never miss chance to fulfill your commitment.

  23. The Fanboy profile image60
    The Fanboyposted 12 years ago

    Along with a genuine love and respect for each other, I would say compatibility is the key.

    Remember, you dont have to always agree but that doesnt mean you are always right. You dont have to like what your partner is saying but at least give them the chance to voice their opinion. And never, under any circumstances, take your partner for granted. As the old saying goes, you dont know what you've got 'till its gone.

  24. henry1robertson profile image60
    henry1robertsonposted 12 years ago

    Respect, trust, caring, understanding from both the sides..

  25. mkvealsh profile image60
    mkvealshposted 12 years ago

    Forget about "give & take", in marriage it's got to be 100% give!  Loving that person entirely is a commitment, and you decide to do that no matter what.  It's not about your spouse making you feel good, but about you committing to the marriage no matter how you feel.  Submitting yourself to God will make this easier because in times of trouble you are able to pray and trust Him to bring you through together.

  26. Kindacrazy profile image59
    Kindacrazyposted 12 years ago

    All the aforementioned, plus laughter.  You have to make your marriage FUN.  Life is so serious, laughter can take you through tough situations.  If you can't laugh at yourself, you can't laugh with someone else.

  27. RealHousewife profile image69
    RealHousewifeposted 12 years ago

    Laugh about everything you can.  Life has it's tough moments for every married couple.  Work with each other and work through them together.  It will make you stronger.  Also, always take a moment to reflect, remember what it was that made you love them in the first place.

  28. Bijosh profile image60
    Bijoshposted 12 years ago

    Three tips:
    Know yourself
    Know your partners
    Know others

  29. MarcellusShale profile image59
    MarcellusShaleposted 12 years ago

    First thing is give yourself plenty of time to get to know each other before you make that comitment. Its not like people have to wait to get married to have sex anymore. Whats the rush? To many people let the partner rush them into marrige or rush into it themselves. If you spent less then 2 years together before you got married then you deserve your divorce. Ofcourse the first year your with someone is all lovely dovie. You havent even begun to learn each others flaws. I am getting married this year. It will be the 10th anniversary of when we started dating. Anyone think our marrige woulnt last? We knew we loved each other enough after our 6th year to have kids together. Thats the important thing, not marriage. If you have kids with someone before you have time to wear on each other and still know you'll be together forever then your a selfish prick.

  30. SaraMarieJames profile image61
    SaraMarieJamesposted 12 years ago

    Open and honest COMMUNICATION as well as being willing to compromise.

  31. Dr. Wendy profile image60
    Dr. Wendyposted 12 years ago

    If you are a Christian, put God first.  Everything else just falls into place:  Trust, respect, all of the actions behind love.

  32. KimberlyAnn26 profile image60
    KimberlyAnn26posted 12 years ago

    Communication, trust, laughter, respect and the Gospel.

  33. ooeuropean profile image61
    ooeuropeanposted 12 years ago

    my best advice? don't complain!

    This is all i have to say and all one needs to know, but now i have to type fluff because the answer had to be longer to publish it.

  34. wheelinallover profile image77
    wheelinalloverposted 12 years ago

    Remember marriage is a bed of roses, the thorns are there too. When you get pricked, cover it with rose petals. Do this for both yourself and your spouse and the bed of petals will be what you remember. The next most important thing is to communicate, always with kindness. Patrick Swayze said it best "Be nice". My personal favorite is treat your love the way you want to be treated, and if you don't expect them to treat you the "bad" way you treated them. Marriage like life is a compromise, be willing to give as well as take. An example of this from my life is my wife liked to gamble, I am dead set against it. I let her gamble when she felt the urge (which thank goodness wasn't often) and she helped me work on cars. It is never safe to work under cars on jacks without someone there to call 911 if the jack slips.

  35. profile image54
    austrailiaposted 12 years ago

    well love trust honesty caring a lil random lovez to have funn and be interesting but knowz when to get serious ow and ofcourse being good in bed iz alwayz a pluz too.

  36. Wesman Todd Shaw profile image82
    Wesman Todd Shawposted 12 years ago

    According to Johnny Cash it was very simple:  "separate bathrooms."

  37. Golfgal profile image81
    Golfgalposted 12 years ago

    happiness is a decision, not happenstance.  Decide to be happy and work that decision like your life depends on it.  It may if your wife finds out that you forgot to take out the trash again!!!!

  38. unigroupx profile image58
    unigroupxposted 12 years ago

    Above All Love Without Boundary.
    Love is Blind - meaning you got to be blind towards everything that will make your marriage to fails.
    Love Does Not Seek His Own: You got to be generous.
    Love Is forgiving : You got to forgive continually
    Love Cares : You got to show caring & affection towards your partner.

    Everything else will come & fade. In marriage there will time of abundance & lack, time of trouble & peace but, LOVE abideth forever.


  39. nightwork4 profile image61
    nightwork4posted 12 years ago

    honesty. without it, there are always doubts which of course lead to hostilities. a couple must communicate and be honest even when it isn't a possitive thing they are talking about. awesome sex really helps too.

  40. hannah08 profile image57
    hannah08posted 12 years ago

    Keep no records of wrong.:-)
    Just like a song goes.. "how can you be mad if you don't remember?r"

  41. profile image53
    Wantingtoquitposted 12 years ago

    a happy marriage?
    its a constant work in progress.
    you make it what you want , its when you quit trying is when it ends.
    but it always takes 2 to keep the work in progress going  strong.
    and trust is as blind as love without boundries.

  42. philirodje profile image60
    philirodjeposted 12 years ago

    Wife, be submissive and respectful, Husband, be Patient and understanding. where there is Love, there is peace and Joy

  43. may91998 profile image61
    may91998posted 12 years ago

    All you need is laughter.  You need to be able to laugh at yourself, at your partner and laugh together.  Remember you are never too old to act silly.

  44. Bronson_Hub profile image60
    Bronson_Hubposted 12 years ago

    A lot of people overlook this one.  Sleep in separate beds.

  45. snoor profile image59
    snoorposted 12 years ago

    Hang in there. It's worth it.

    Play nice, play often, love much.

    Never air your dirty laundry as a couple in public.

    Never keep secrets from each other.

    Be each other's champion. No matter what, take your husband or wife's side first!

    Communication is the key!

    Always respect each other.

    Never underestimate the power of a good belly-laugh and don't be afraid to laugh at yourself.

    It's the little things that matter most.

    Never use the words 'Always' and 'Never' in a fight.

    It's ok to argue, but never use curse words to express your anger.

    Never compare your marriage to others. What you see on the outside is not always what it is on the inside.

    Don't make love in the same place/position everytime. Variety is the spice of life!

  46. profile image50
    commodity_poorposted 12 years ago

    love n understand eachothers daily gives hug n kiss in the morning share every happenes n encoreg that ur young n one of the best partner in hundreds.....

  47. Pandora9 profile image59
    Pandora9posted 12 years ago

    Some people say marriage is a 50/50 effort - each partner gives equally. I've also heard that it's 100/100 - each partner gives their all. But the truth is that marriage is 70/30 - sometimes you're the 70 and sometimes you're the 30. People have jobs, school, kids, and many other issues that require their attention and sometimes take away from your relationship with your partner. Having a supportive spouse is the key, but you must make sure you aren't taking advantage of that support. It's when you've been the 70 for too long that problems start to erupt. Be supportive, but don't allow someone to take advantage of you...and don't take advantage of the one you love.

  48. LyndaD profile image60
    LyndaDposted 12 years ago

    TEAMWORK!! I can't stress this one enough. I've been married for over 2 years now. Life is busy, add children to the mix and it's even busier. If you and your significant other do not work together to accomplish even the simplest tasks, I think you're asking for disaster.

  49. Sarine profile image60
    Sarineposted 12 years ago

    do some things together and yet do some things apart as well. and based on experience, the adage about a man's heart being through his stomach seems to be true. my husband hates coming home to a cold dinner. one time, i delayed baking dinner rolls until he got home so that when we sat down to eat, the rolls were hot and steaming straight from the oven. he absolutely loved it!

  50. Dr irum profile image60
    Dr irumposted 12 years ago

    Trust ,respect ,tolerance and understanding .


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