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What have you done or what have you said, that you most regret?

  1. annart profile image86
    annartposted 5 years ago

    What have you done or what have you said, that you most regret?

    Deeds or words that hurt someone or that had dire consequences, maybe, and what would you do to redress the balance if possible?

  2. msorensson profile image71
    msorenssonposted 5 years ago

    Gosh..I am sure that I have done many..I just don't remember them now. As for the issue of redressing..I could not and will not know how anymore.

    I hope that I have paid for them in full when I experienced tears flowing without apparent reason during years of meditation.

  3. NightFlower profile image59
    NightFlowerposted 5 years ago

    I don't know anymore,  for most every inappropriate or offensive comment I've made, I have tried to make amends for it. Also I try to make it a point not to speak thoughtlessly against others so I won't have to so much.

  4. I Am Rosa profile image91
    I Am Rosaposted 5 years ago


    My big regret in this life:  I allowed another being to become ill and die because of my ignorance and lack of confidence in my own ability to love and heal another ...

    My first cat was quiet and well-behaved for years and then she started peeing on the floor and furniture. I thought she was being a "bad kitty" and acting out for some unknown reason.  I noticed that she was getting thinner and started to smell funny, but it never occurred to me that she was sick until it was VERY obvious.

    By the time I got her to the vet, she wasn't expected to live.  The vet told me that her kidneys were failing and her liver was damaged.  That was why she was stinky and peeing everywhere.  I felt awful for being angry and disciplining her when she couldn't help it.

    The vet put her on IV and I took her home to care for her for a couple of days.  I had her in a special bed with her favourite blankie at home.  I kept her by my side at my desk so she could see me when she woke up and I could pet her frequently and talk to her all the time.  I fed her with a syringe and made sure she got her medication.  She started to recover.

    The vet was surprised at how well she was doing and suggested that, because she was stronger now, I leave her with them for more intensive care.  I didn't want to leave her with strangers in a strange and scary place, but let others convince me that she'd be better off with professionals ... I didn't know they were just going to stick her in a cage in a back room and check up on her every few hours.

    She died within hours of my leaving her there.  They said she waited at the door of the cage for me to return for her, but when they shut the office down and everyone went home, except for the person on night duty, she went to the back of the cage, curled up and died ...  I never got to say good-bye, see her body, or have her cremated.  She was just gone.

    It's been over 10 years and it still eats at me that she thought I'd abandoned her ... that I'd let her get so sick in the first place ... that she died alone thinking that I didn't love her anymore.

    I've done mediation and spoken with her since; apologized and been forgiven with great love, but for some reason, I have not been able to forgive myself.  Every time I think I've moved passed it, I'm hit again by self-recrimination and the haunting image of her waiting for me to return.

  5. Ciel Clark profile image76
    Ciel Clarkposted 5 years ago

    Oh!  So many things I have done that I regret. 
    Would I go back and change them?  I really don't know.  All that I have done has led to me being where I am now, and I am so happy.
    Even so, I wish I could say I am sorry to people I hurt and have them really know I mean it.

  6. Eric Prado profile image77
    Eric Pradoposted 5 years ago

    I have done and said some things in my life that I am not exactly proud of, but no matter what, I am not regretful of anything I have ever said or done.

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    jasper420posted 5 years ago

    I have done and said alot of things I wish I never did but I dont regret it because I took the guilt I felt and learned from it. We all make mistakes in life we all have some form of regret but if we learn from the mistakes we can turn something negitave into something postive. Our actions speak louder than words Im sorry for the things I did yes but I learned from them and am a better pearson now they no longer eat at me because I have forgiven myslef.

  8. 4wardthinker profile image80
    4wardthinkerposted 5 years ago

    I would have to say, "I do". Maybe there may be a few people who can relate. I would have taken a different path and focused on having a steady career for my future.

  9. Monday's Child profile image60
    Monday's Childposted 5 years ago

    That is a hard question.  I thought hard about it and what I have found is it is the things that I have NOT done or said that I regret the most.