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How much privacy are you entitled to in a relationship?

  1. klayne profile image60
    klayneposted 6 years ago

    How much privacy are you entitled to in a relationship?

    with all of the online communities and smart phones and apparel encouraging social engagement, is it wrong to "snoop" on your significant other? What information do you feel entitled to have? Passwords, logins, security pass? At what point is it too much sharing, if at all. And what about a significant other who insists, even angers at the notion of giving access to any personal nonlinear or phone information? I'm doing some research for a new hub and would love to know some opinions! Thank you!

  2. thebiologyofleah profile image93
    thebiologyofleahposted 6 years ago

    I think its a question that is tied to trust- how much trust is there in the relationship? If a partner has broken your trust then I feel one is more inclined to snoop and may be a little justified in doing so. But if your relationship has no trust problems then privacy should be granted. If my boyfriend's email account is open on the computer screen when I walk up to it I might look at subject titles and ask who so and so is but I would never open an email of his without his permission and I know he has mentioned just logging my account out if I leave mine open.  But if a significant other refuses access it does lead one to get suspicious of what they are hiding!

  3. MickS profile image73
    MickSposted 6 years ago

    None, but there again, nobody has any right to 'snoop' on another.

  4. Levertis Steele profile image86
    Levertis Steeleposted 6 years ago

    That is a tough question. There is no one answer for everyone. It depends on what is best for each person involved. It depends on situations, the actual secrets. I think that married people should discuss it and agree. I also think that anyone in a relationship should base privacy on righteousness and the golden rule, just a lot of common sense, fairness, etc.

  5. kess profile image61
    kessposted 6 years ago

    Well it depends largely on the kind or type of relationship you are determined to have, for even married people are not yet "married" because they are still unwilling to reliquish their individuality that would make the marriage a reality.

    So if you are in a relationship for the benefit of having a true husband / wife, then you would know that requires giving up all privacy.

    If not then that which you reserve determime the relationship itself.

  6. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    You are entitled to all the privacy (you) want. No one is forced to stay with someone who violates their boundaries. Some people are completely candid about their lives and share debit card PIN#s, Email passwords, Facebook and other log on passwords with their significant others. Other folks would rather hold onto their privacy and share only those things they choose to share. There is no "right" or "wrong", only agree or disagree. Ultimately  you are better off being with someone that feels the same way about it as you do!
    Anyone who approaches life with a "I have nothing to hide" or "My life is an open book!" philosophy will always be suspicous of those who recoil at the idea of sharing everything. There are also others who are afraid of being hurt or betrayed so they take it upon themselves to in the words of Ronald Reagan "Trust, but (verify)" especially early on in a relationship.
    Even the most trusting person in the world would raise an eyebrow if their mate whispered during phone calls or took calls in another room, changed screens on their PC whenenver you walked towards them or suddendly displayed erractic behavior. It takes courage to fall in love. Trust like Respect is something to be earned over time. In order to be trusted one must demostrate honesty and integrity.

  7. juiwei2000 profile image60
    juiwei2000posted 6 years ago

    You are entitled to as much privacy as you want, if your partner don;t like it then you have to remeber "It is your way or the high way."  you come first in a relationship, if he take the high way, that is good news too, because like I always say, do you prefer an early break up or become a middle age divorcee? wink

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    reeltaulkposted 6 years ago

    I don't think there should be any "privacy", maybe initially because you don't know the individual, but if you are truly committed to each other what is there to hide.  I would be suspect of someone that claims they need "privacy".  hmmm and believe me when I say I'll give it to them.  Now on the other hand needing space or time to one self is different and any mature person will respect and understand that without taking it personal.

  9. ReneeDC1979 profile image61
    ReneeDC1979posted 5 years ago

    Is snooping wrong?  Yes, most definately.  If you trust them why are you snooping?  What are you hoping to find?  They say be careful what you wish for.  I don't want my mates personal info - passwords, etc.  That's his business.  I don't go looking for evidence.  If he's doing something the truth will come to the light.  If he's not and you start being sneaky, he won't trust you.