My parents both divorced and remarried, live in "gated" communities- But the sad thing is (well at least according to my dad) that his home in Florida for some 20 years IS off limits to myself, my brother, & sister-; What do you make of that?-
Gated communities are terrible. They are unwelcoming and they tend to create recluses. The people who live in them begin to feel superior and look down their noses at the "vulgarity" of the rest of us. They detract from the community.