What would any normal person do in this type of situation?

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   Virginia Leaposted 13 years ago

   What would any normal person do in this type of situation?
   
   Alright so I have had this friend since I was eleven. She was what you would call a "best friend", But a couple of months ago things starting getting rough and well she starting lying to me, and not sticking to her word. What was I supposed to do? I got upset, I didn't yell or get mad I simply brought up the issue and well she basically ran the other way with her hands over her ears. This would be the 4th or 5th time it has happened with me brushing it off, untill I finally couldn't take it anymore and got mad. That was nearly two months ago and we haven't spoken a word since.

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   dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

   There is nothing to do unless you want a liar for a friend. Each of us gets to choose our own friends, lovers, and spouse. We get to decide who we want to spend our time with. Understanding that we can only control ourselves it is in our best interest not to waste our time with people who don't share our same values especially when it is a "social connection" and not a business one. Your ex-friend has moved on. It's time you've done the same. One man's opinion! :-)

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      Virginia Leaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I suppose your right, I just have so much disgust and hate for this person and at least some explanations or closure would be fine. Its as if we were never friends at all. I just don't understand how someone could just cut someone loose so easily.

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      dashingscorpioposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Virginia Lea, I believe the need for closure is one major difference between men and women. It doesn't change the end result nor does it make one feel better for having been hurt. The thing one person hates about us another person will love.

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   Lastheartposted 13 years ago

   It is hard to live with a liar, but she is a friend anyways from a long time. I think that liars as other corrupted behaviors absolutely need help. I read that you are a Christian, perhaps she needs you more than you think. Ephesians 4:32 says: "Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you."

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   Efficient Adminposted 13 years ago

   I agree very much with dashingscorpio, but based on your reply please don't harbor any hate for this person, it only hurts you.  You should pray for this girl because she may have issues going on that you don't know about.

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      dashingscorpioposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Efficient Admin, I agree with you. When we hate it becomes our way of "holding on". Letting go gives us peace of mind. Not all friendships or relationships were meant to last forever.

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   alexatomasposted 13 years ago

   To say the truth, I lied to my friends once. My best friends ever didn't even know what was going on with me. I was depressed, I was ashamed and I tried to hide it.
   
   This is just to tell you that she may be going through something like that and she's just not too comfortable with it, therefore she would lie.
   
   Then again, she may have just changed and become a liar.
   
   I think you truly need to figure out if you value this friendship. If you do and if you believe she may be going through something, you should call her and talk to her. But if you dont, prepare yourself to lose her forever probably, either because she's a liar or because you were not there when she needed you.

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      Virginia Leaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      One way or another I have already lost her. It's kind of a long story and this may sound harsh but I'm ok with it just being totally over forever. It's a really REALLY long story. Just shoot me a message of you want to know. Thanks for the comment

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      alexatomasposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I understand your choice, believe me. And I don't blame you. I just wanted to give you all the options and possible consequences. But as long as you are in piece with this subject and this choice, it's alright

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