Do Guys Really Want a Good Girl?

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  1. ssmith1534 profile image70
    ssmith1534posted 6 years ago

    Do Guys Really Want a Good Girl?

    I've been told by most guys that I've dated that I would be considered a "good girl" because I'm "smart, attractive, have a good sense of humor, and know how to dress (in their words)." And usually, things start out fine. But eventually, the phone calls stop, and the guys are on to the next thing. Now I will admit, dating in the "real world" is something I'm new at (recent college graduate). Am I putting out my spark unintentionally? Are these lines that guys say to get what they want? Do guys really want a good girl?

    Thanks for the feedback!

  2. prospectboy profile image88
    prospectboyposted 6 years ago

    Hey there ssmith1534. My personal opinion is that most men do want a good woman. Unfortunately, in most guys eyes, they feel like a good woman is a woman who basically adheres to all of their blessings. The second that a woman doesn't, most guys move onto the next. A lot of it boils down to sex as well. Most men feel that if a woman doesn't "give it up" in a certain length of time, that she is a waste of time, and they move on. Regardless as to how we break it down, good guys and good woman often get it harder in the dating world. I've often asked the questions, "Do women want good guys anymore?" But to answer your other questions, it very well may not be you doing anything unintentionally. It just may be the guys that the guys you've been involved with aren't right for you.

    1. ssmith1534 profile image70
      ssmith1534posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your feedback prospectboy! I guess I'm tired of hearing guys say, "I want a good girl," and then when I'm categorized as one, things don't work out. And then there are all these comments about women wanting "thugs." Not into that either.

    2. prospectboy profile image88
      prospectboyposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      You're welcome. Just hang in there. The kind of guy you are looking for will most likely come when you least expect it. I don't believe all women want "thugs". I just think a lot of women prefer guys to have a certain image.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    Timing is everything!
    Of course everyone wants to "end up" with a (good girl) or (good guy) in the end. Everyone has their definition of what is "good" though. Just as a lot of women go through their "Bad Boy" phase where they won't give a "good guy" the time of day because he's "too nice" staying true to their famous quote: "We  adore those who ignore us and ignore those who adore us" If only the "good guys" and the "good girls" were attracted to one another!
    Many men also go through a phase where they just want to party and get laid by the hottest girls available. This phase often lasts throughout their 20s and sometimes into their early 30s. If they cross paths with a "good girl" they'll usually end up hurting her or they will spare her serious heartache by backing away because they know they aren't ready to cash in their (single life) cards yet. The typical 20 something year old guy just got out of a dorm or broke out of his parent's basement. The last thing on his mind is to settle down and become his parents!
    Most women in their 20s who are looking to have a "serious relationship" with marriage potential would probably do better by dating men who are in their early to mid- thirties which have never been married. One man's opinion! :-)

  4. lostdogrwd profile image60
    lostdogrwdposted 6 years ago

    men want sex. with women but they do respect good  women and in most cases not put any moves on a good women, I know for when I do date good woman and I see what they looking for I may stay friend but I know I,m just looking for sex and really don't want to hurt anyone. fast tail women always looking for something and way easier to get so we do. but men want the same for there woman that a women want. a women that there for him like he there for her and you will know when you find him, and if a man can't find that them there no real love in the women he see. just sex

  5. libby1970 profile image67
    libby1970posted 6 years ago

    I think guys want a good girl for their wife or steady girlfriend, but some guys want that and a bad girl on the side... I've had that experience. I was the wife, a good girl, and my husband was messing around with a very bad, nasty, girl who wasn't even attractive at all. It is a very low blow to your self esteem.

  6. soconfident profile image82
    soconfidentposted 5 years ago

    Its the same with women who chase bad boys: in the end good guys and gals finish last.


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