What do I do with my exboyfriend when he says he is confused about everything bu

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   Baby2012posted 11 years ago

   What do I do with my exboyfriend when he says he is confused about everything but he still loves me?
   
   Well I am 9 months pregnant and I am a senior in high school and my boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks and a half ago because I found out he was talking to this other girl at school. I was really heartbroken when I found out. We stayed together and tried to work things out and then one day he just hit me wit the terrible news that he likes the other girl but he still loves me. When I saw him about 3 days ago he was being really nice and he said he missed me and that he loves me and when hes around me he wants to be with me and the same time he doesnt and that he is confused about everything.

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   peachpurpleposted 11 years ago

   Your bf is one of a BIG problem instead of your belly. He has to decide whom to let go, either the girl or you. He can't step  in 2 boats at the same time because it is unfair to you. Tell him to think deeply, who is important to him physically and mentally. Don't pressure him because he might make the wrong decision.

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      Baby2012posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Okay I told him to think about it and his response was none simple as that....and I don't know if I should even try with him anymore???

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   First of all stop making this about him! It doesn't matter what HE wants! You are about to become someone's mother. Your focus now ought to be on getting a education or some type of training which will lead to a career path that will allow you to support yourself and your child.
   Don't allow yourself to be manipulated. When a guy says he's "confused" he's basically looking to keep you as a "booty call."
   The last thing on most boy's minds is becoming like their parents! They aren't mature or ready to get an apartment/mortage, provide financial support for baby food, clothes, health insurance. They want to party with their friends, play the field, and enjoy their "freedom". Getting married right out of high school is considered a nightmare for most high school boys. It's like watching their life flash before them. Boys don't grow up playing with baby dolls, pushing strollers, cooking with Easy-bake ovens. They have not been dreaming of getting married. It's unrealistic to expect a teenage boy or a guy in his early 20s to be ready to for a commitment of "until do us part". Most men don't start thinking in those terms until they are in their late 20s or early 30s.
   
   Your time for worrying about "boys" is over with. It's time to start approaching your life like an adult. Learn from your mistake. (I'm assuming your pregnancy was not on purpose). Make sure if it ever happens again it is within the confines of a loving marriage with a financially stable (man) who is NOT confused.
   Teens need to quit pretending that their high school relationships are on par with "adult relationships" or "marriages".  Being a teen means learing about one's self, exploring life, and trying to figure out what you want to do. Most people don't end up "happily ever after" with their high school or college sweethearts. You might also want to read books on how to select the right type of man for yourself and child in the future. You might check out my book on Amazon. "My Cat Won't Bark! (A Relationship Epiphany).
   "Never separate your mind from your heart when making relationship decisions." Best of luck!

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   jcheng16posted 11 years ago

   the real question here is if you still love him. after everything he has put you through, having him knowing full well that you need him now more than ever and him still walking away. that has to make you question if he is the reliable great guy you need him to be. also now it is not just you that you need to think about, you're bringing a new life into your life and you have to ask yourself if you can really allow him to just walk in and out whenever he wants. he's still young of course he is confused, but it's time for him to grow up and make decisions. and if he can't do that then you have to do it for him and decide if you want to be with him or not. if you don't put your foot down at some point you never know when he'll break your heart again. don't let it happen after the baby is born it'll be too hard for everyone. sometimes it hurts to let go of someone you love but sometimes it's the best thing for everyone.

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