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Is there someone out here for everyone, or are some of us doomed for long-term

  1. ReneeDC1979 profile image60
    ReneeDC1979posted 5 years ago

    Is there someone out here for everyone, or are some of us doomed for long-term  singledom?

  2. Violet Flame profile image74
    Violet Flameposted 5 years ago

    In an ideal world, I would say yes there is someone for everyone. In the real world, some of us do end up alone through no fault of our own. But I do not consider myself "doomed" in any way, LOL. At 44 years of age, after being divorced for 10 years, I find myself still single at the present moment. I do not label it wrong or bad, it is what it is and I am perfectly happy. It is nice having that someone to share your life with, but being single has a lot of its advantages too! I have learned to be quite independent in my thinking and my action and I value the fact that I have learned to really love my self and my uniqueness without having to rely on someone else's appreciation (or the lack of). The spiritual belief of twin soul or twin flame for each and every person sometimes does not extend to an earth experience. By that I meant, sometimes, a soul might need to lead a single life in order to learn and grow. It is not a bad thing, but by design. The thing is, whether being single or with a partner, one really is not better or worse then the other. Life is full of its unique learnings, and it will find us whether we wake up alone or not, LOL. Hope this helps. Many blessings xoxo

    1. ReneeDC1979 profile image60
      ReneeDC1979posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Violet Flame, very insightful.

    2. lone77star profile image84
      lone77starposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Beautiful answer, @Violet Flame. I was divorced for 12 years before I started looking again. Then, after a year of effort, I stopped efforting and merely started living in love. Days later, I found her.

  3. connorj profile image75
    connorjposted 5 years ago


    I do believe indeed there is someone out there for everyone (that includes you); however, meeting that person and recognizing that interaction as that "someone" is the real enigma. Now I must tell you it is easy for me to say this and I may unknowingly be a harbinger of prejudgment because I happened to find that someone. Yet deep down, I do believe there is that particular someone for everyone. Perhaps you should "listen" to your instincts and fully recognize that next coincidence that occurs directly with you and act upon that without over-thinking...

  4. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    Yes, I believe there is more than 1 person for everyone. After all there are over 7 Billion people on the planet. I wonder if god sometimes scratches his head asks; "How many more people do I have to make before you find one that meets your standards?" lol!
    Seriously it's human nature to (exclude) rather than (include) when it comes to our search for a mate. For instance if I say "the one" has to be of my own race depending upon what that is you might be eliminating 6 Billion people! (sight unseen). If I go onto say "the one" has live in the U.S that eliminates 6.7 Billion. We then say he/she must share my same religious views, live in my state/town...etc All of this is before we get to height, weight, education, career, income, hobbies/interest...etc And then finally we say my friends & family must like/love "the one" and vice versa!
    The reality is the more we (exclude) the fewer options we allow ourselves to find a mate. Awhile back I wrote a hub on this subject. http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … venbillion

  5. James-wolve profile image77
    James-wolveposted 5 years ago

    I believe that for every person, there are thousands of soul mates who can be found all over the world, and each of those people has thousands of soul mates too. Everyone you meet is a potential soul mate. Anyone who is LIVING could be a soul mate for anyone else.

    Soul mates are not exclusively romantic in nature. Parents can be soul mates with children, and people have animal soul mates sometimes too. Anything is possible with these loving connections.

    People create soul mates. It's not just your destiny it's also your choice. When two people love each other and work to build a lasting, fulfilling partnership, they can become soul mates. And yes, people always find each other, if that's what they want to do.

    People who are unselfish in their desire to love others usually find people of like mind and become soul mates together. This is a process, however, so there are no guarantees. One person may think the other is a soul mate, but unless the two of them agree to build that sort of bond, it won t evolve.On television and in the movies, a soul mate relationship can be created in forty minutes (plus commercials), but it doesn't happen that quickly in real life.

  6. stricktlydating profile image82
    stricktlydatingposted 5 years ago

    I believe there's more than one person out there for everyone.  And also being a long-term single doesn't mean you are "Doomed".  You could spend all of your 20's single and suddenly turn 30 and find yourself within a year getting married, buying a house, having a child...  Then again, you might not and could go off and have the time of your life travelling the world.   So long as you are happy in life it's all that matters.

  7. lone77star profile image84
    lone77starposted 5 years ago

    @ReneeDC1979, it's easy to get discouraged, but you need to focus on the goal, not the present situation. Feel the accomplishment of the goal, acknowledging but not trapped by the current situation.

    Live in love! Practice being in love. Act like you're in love. That will attract your mate. It worked for me.

    I had tried for over a year without any luck, and I had been divorced for 12 years. Within a few days of my change of attitude, my Juvy first contacted me. Surprisingly, it was on my birthday, but I didn't respond for a little over a week. It was a little disconcerting, because she was 27 and I was 57, but after a few times online chatting, we were both hooked. Our personalities were dovetailed like perfection.

    Watch the movie, "The Secret." Know that, with faith, anything you ask of God will be given to you. If you ask out of loneliness, you will get loneliness. If you ask with fear, you will get fear. But if you ask with love, you will get love.

    Example of practice: answer your cell phone (even though no one called) and walk around the store talking to your lover -- your newlywed husband. See what I mean? It doesn't matter what everyone else thinks of you while you're living the life of love.

    I think I hear wedding bells...

    1. ReneeDC1979 profile image60
      ReneeDC1979posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks lone77star.  I always notice when I in a relationship the flock of guys just seem to find me.  I gotta figure out how I look/act.  Thanks for the tip.

    2. Violet Flame profile image74
      Violet Flameposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      nicely put lone77star!!!! I might practice that for myself ^^. Even though I do think there's nothing wrong being single, it is definitely better being IN LOVE AT ALL TIMES even when one is single, LOL. xoxo