Should you snoop through you’re sweetie’s personals?

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   Pinkflyposted 12 years ago

   Should you snoop through you’re sweetie’s personals?
   
   Should you snoop through you’re sweetie’s personals?  Facebook, emails, underwear draw that taunting box at the bottom of the closet?

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   MickSposted 12 years ago

   No.  Would you be happy for your 'sweetie' to snoop through your personals?

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   peeplesposted 12 years ago

   I wouldn't know, I'm married to someone who is open and honest about the things he does. He doesn't do much of facebook and considering I wash and fold his underwear hiding anything in his underwear drawer would be funny.

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   Lady Summersetposted 12 years ago

   NEVER!!!!!! You may find something that you wish you hadn't.  If you have to snoop...you've lost the battle of trust already...move on!

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   Pinkflyposted 12 years ago

   You snoop to service a feeling of fear.   When you first get together you snoop out of distrust, usually due to past disappointing experiences.  This is pretty normal and honestly most people snoop a little at first.  When you have been together for a while and you snoop it’s out of fear, that they are disappointing you. 
   Snooping comes with many evils.  Once you begin to snoop it’s likely that you have a notion as to what you are looking for and the less you find the harder you look.   The biggest problem is that we as human beings have an incessant need to be right.  What I am saying is proceed with caution after a lot of searching you may begin to connect dots that don’t really exist out of a need to self-satisfy.  On the other hand you many unfortunately find what you expected.

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      MickSposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry, some people snoop, your wording implies that all people snoop, only those with proplems of trust snoop.

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   NornsMercyposted 12 years ago

   I don't normally snoop because I think that trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. From experience, as a person who isn't a jealous or nosy person normally, if I get an irrepressible urge to snoop, the evidence I find always points to me being in a relationship with a cheater. Thank goodness I found my honest, open husband whose stuff I never have to go through because he wears his real face on the surface.
   
   People shouldn't be sneaking/snooping just as much as people shouldn't be lying/cheating/omitting the truth.

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   I would say no, and like peeples, my husband is open and honest and could care less if I rummage thru his stuff or email. At times he asks me to check his email for him. He wouldn't be on Facebook if his life depended on it.
   
   But I think trust is absolutely key to a relationship and if a person feels they need to rummage thru the peripherals of their partner's life, then trust is not there and that is a bigger problem that what one might find snooping thru their stuff.

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   lburmasterposted 12 years ago

   In each relationship, I've never found anything of worth. They've never cheated, to my knowledge. But two did have sad secrets. One I figured out easily. The other hid his so well I didn't know the truth until 6 months after we had broken up. But now, my husband knows better than to hide from me. He isn't open and honest, and it is like pulling teeth, but I still hear most everything from his work, friends, and family. If I don't get it through him, I just hear it from his mother who I'm great friends with.

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   Do you want or expect your "sweetie" to snoop through (your) personals? Facebook, emails, underwear draw, that taunting box at the bottom of the closet? These are questions each of us should ask ourselves (before) we start playing private detective. We also should take into account what could happen if we get caught.
   People tend to "snoop" when things are going well because they can't believe things are so (great). They also snoop when things aren't going the way they want because there has to be a "underlying reason". The tagline on the TV show "Cheaters" is: "Exercise your right to be informed".
   I suspect there are some people who just love going through other people's things period. Uncovering secrets makes their day. There are others who simply never trust (anyone) completely. However the real insecurities and trust issues have to do with ourselves not trusting we can select the "right" people to emotionally invest in.

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