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is it possible for a man to have a heterosexual relationship and wear lingerie or is this a sign of?
my girlfriend is freaked out now that I have told her I need to wear lingerie whenever...she has left me at the moment..I'm not gay but is this fetish a sign of problems that I may bring to the relationship in the future?
Contrary to popular belief, most cross-dressers are heterosexual. They do not desire a relationship with another man, they are attracted to women.
I'm not sure what causes a man to want to dress as a woman; but, then I don't understand women who want to dress as men either.
I do know that it takes an understanding woman to be in a relationship with a cross-dresser because of all the prejudice, stigmas, and untruths that abound.
There is an old saying, "Clothes maketh the man." I prefer to think that the clothes are irrelevant - I have known some truly great people who came wrapped in some strange clothing.
Your girlfriend needs to read some of the wonderful hubs published by Hope Alexander on just this subject. If it is any help, I have reprinted here a declaration I wrote (mainly for myself) around 6 months ago, but have published elsewhere and also shown to some people who needed an explanation regarding my own lingerie-wearing habits.
• I am a 100% straight man, who has never entertained a homosexual thought in his life.
• I have gay and straight friends of both sexes.
• I like wearing silky lingerie, I love the way it feels against my body.
• I have no sense of gender dysphoria; I am a masculine man who loves being a man and engages in “manly” activities (watching/playing football, drinking beer, working out in the gym, admiring the female form in all its many glorious manifestations)
• I also like wearing soft, silky lingerie. Does this make me any less of a man? Does this make me a danger to society? Is this a reason for me to be ostracised by society and classified as a “weirdo”?
• Historically, many items of attire that are now considered in Western society to be “feminine”, including skirts, high heels hosiery and make-up were everyday items of male attire. Indeed, up until the middle of the 20th Century it was almost unheard of for a woman to wear bifurcated garments vis-a-vis trousers.
So, why should I have to fear the derision of narrow-minded bigots who need to overcome their own sense of inadequacy by belittling others for having proclivities and tastes that they perceive to be “abnormal”?
I hope that this has been of help to you.
My significant other has not problem with me wearing panties; she sees them as just another kind of underwear. She is,though uncomforatable with other things like feminine colors, lace and with me wearing a bra, etc. She has said, "I'm not a lesbian..." - therin is the area of discomfort for her. I respect that. My interest is mainly comfortable underwear that fit well (I often wonder why men's underwear is made so poorly and fits so badly; for that matter, I wonder why women's full-cut briefs fit so well around my manly parts - but I am thankful that they do fit so well and that the fabric is so wonderful). If you are concerned about fetish activity, then ask yourself why you want to wear panties/lingerie. If it is a substitute for a meaningful sexual relationship with a woman, then you may have a problem. If it is just because you like to wear something comfortable, then I don't see a problem. If you have the chance, talk to a professional counselor about it - you'll be surprised at how supportive they are about men wearing lingerie/panties. You and your girlfriend might go together - it would be very instructive for her as well. In any case - only YOU know the answer to your question, and you are the one who needs to answer it.
Another thought: just because a man wears woman's underthings does not make him a "cross-dresser". Cross dressing is wearing the opposite gender's clothing out in public as a common proactice.
A real 100% man wants to attract a real 100% woman, and vice versa. If a man likes panties, and his woman feels uncomfortable with them on him, then, he needs to choose between his woman and his panties.
Where in the world did the issue about silk underwear for men come in? Who cares about fabric? My husband--when we were young--wore those old-fashioned, white, wide elastic banded, overlapping fly-front BVD's. I had to educate him. I bought him some silk low-riding underwear, and he has worn then and his BVD's alternately. Now, he is old, white headed and bearded, sits and hogs the remote mostly, but he still wears his silkies. Silk is comfortable on anyone who tells the truth. Fabric should not matter. Now, color does matter sometimes. When pink shirts for men came in when we were young, I bought him one. He wore it, but he never bought one for himself. That was a man pleasing his woman, reasonably. Now, if I had gotten ridiculous, he would have put me in check. He was a man then and still is.
Now, concerning your problem with wearing feminine lingerie: I can relate to her leaving you. If she had wanted a feminine mate, she could have gone whole hog and gotten a woman. That woman wants a man! If you cannot be that in dress and mannerisms, just move on until you find a woman who accepts you as you are. See a professional, seasoned counselor about the fetish. A woman needs to follow any warning she feels. So should a man. You asked the question, "...is this fetish a sign of problems that I may bring to the relationship in the future?" That is your warning. Have it checked out. I wish you well.
Yes it is possible. I have had girlfriends, ex-wife and new wife. The ex-wife is not ex because of wearing ether. Some of the girlfriends knew and some didn't. The wives knew right at the start. The one thing I learned is that I when I started talking to lady that I liked I just came out and told them right in the beginning. I only had one person freak out. Here is what I would say to them. Would it bother you if I wear female lingerie? And get this answer most of the time. Why should it? Or I would get Really??? You don't look like the type, but I'm cool with it. So yeah very very possible.
by babaroo5 years ago
are more women attracted to men who wear lingerie now ? how can we gain better acceptance ?......thank you for your writing on this subject , Hope. where can a guy find a lady who thinks men in lingerie are sexy ? It is...
by convertible676 months ago
Why is it looked at as wrong for men to wear panties:}
by Steven Escareno19 months ago
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by sunil.menon6 months ago
Why do you think men wears woemns undergarments?Have you done some reserach on it
by sgjerome9 years ago
Britney's done it. Lindsay's done it. So have Paris, Kate and even Helen Mirren. Are women picking up the no-undies trend?
by StricktlyDating9 months ago
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