Is it appropriate for a spouse to remove their wedding ring during a long, drawn

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   Thatmidwestfeelinposted 11 years ago

   Is it appropriate for a spouse to remove their wedding ring during a long, drawn-out argument?

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   We can only control (our) actions. It would be arrogant of us to try to "tell" someone how to react to what they are feeling. Whether your spouse wants to remove their ring, go for a walk, or give you the silent treatment it's all out of your hands. You can only control you!
   If you are frequently having long drawn out arguments it may be possible that you are not right for one another. Oftentimes one or both people start to think they'd be happier being single than having to deal with same issues over and over again. This may be your spouse's way of silently letting you know they are at the breaking point.
   Most fights or arguments are about establishing boundaries. One person feels they were disrespected, neglected, or there was no consideration given to their feelings. "Anger is the mask that hurt wears."
   There's a saying: "When you start yelling I stop listening."  If you are the hurt party instead of trying to score (ego points) by attacking someone (calmly) tell them how hurt you were that they....etc and then slowly walk away. Whether they offer an excuse or become defensive about it, it will linger in their mind. (If someone is truly in love with you the last thing they want to do is hurt you). You are far more likely to get an apology this way than you are by attacking someone.
   On the other hand if you determine your mate does not care about your feelings then maybe you should be removing (your) ring! Why stay married if you're not in love? The basic definition of a "soul mate" is two people sharing the same values, wanting the same things for the relationship, (naturally agreeing) on how to obtain them, and having (mutual) feelings for one another.

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   windygreenposted 11 years ago

   The ring itself is a symbol - It is a circle.. a circle never stops, it just keeps going round and round forever.   The ring is given in marriage to symbolize a neverending bond of love and dedication- to the two as well as to the rest of the world.   This bond is supposed to surpass "bumps in the road".
   
   Taking off a wedding ring is like tearing up a contract, or at least thinking of doing so.   Whether it is put back on or not, the fact remains that the thought of ending it was present- if only for a moment.  However, the final decision to hold true to vows in the face of conflict is admirable.
   I would think that this act was intended to serve a purpose- to send a strong message to the spouse of ... "I AM NOT HAPPY"  or  "I HAVE REACHED MY LIMIT". It is a serious warning.
   Regardless of who is right or wrong, both parties should work together to find a way to compromise on the present issue quickly and learn to communicate better for the long run .  If they do not, sadly, the next "bump in the road" (or any thereafter) may be their last before parting ways.

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   lburmasterposted 11 years ago

   No, it's not. He does that an he can camp out in the backyard. But then again, we've never had a long, drawn-out argument.

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   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   No, it is not appropriate and is quite childish. Set some rules for arguing. We had a few and one was never ever mention divorce unless you mean it and we didn't go to be angry.
   
   If my husband did that to me (removing his ring in anger), it would only happen once!  It makes me angry to even think about him trying to use that tactic to get a response out of me....and it would as iburmaster said, he could camp in the yard or at the nearest motel.

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   skytreeroadposted 10 years ago

   It sounds like you two have arguments. The upside of removing a ring when the argument gets that hot is that now the person has to worry and think about actually throwing that ring and if it is lost forever. If the argument is that hot that the rings come off it needs a little cooling down. And no, just as it is not appropriate for the ring to come off for dishes or extramarital dating. Jail, you have no choice in, that ring comes off. Make an agreement prior that if that ring flings the flinger pays for the new rings. If you have presence of mind enough during the fight and that ring comes off you really need to diffuse the fight even a little. Stop, breathe, and get a minute of air if you can. If it happened once you know it will happen again. Prepare for it.

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   Penny Gposted 10 years ago

   Of course not but it's just their childish way of pouting, and rebelling.

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   Maria Beardposted 7 years ago

   Taking of your ring during and argument honestly depends on the kind of Argument said people are having.

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   Guckenbergerposted 6 years ago

   I would state that it just is what it is. It's hurtful, but I am not sure that appropriateness is something that can be applied here.

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