This is a painful decision, but should you bury your wedding ring with your spou

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   ngurecoposted 10 years ago

   This is a painful decision, but should you bury your wedding ring with your spouse?

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   Lori P.posted 10 years ago

   I don't think there is a right or wrong answer here. It is how you feel about your ring and your marriage to your deceased spouse. Some people believe that marriage is only until "death do you part" while others believe that their union is for eternity. Either way, if keeping your ring brings you comfort, I say keep it. It will serve as a token for all those beautiful memories together. If you feel it brings you pain and you're ready to move forward on your new life without him/her...you can bury it with your spouse.
   
   What a difficult decision. It is a personal one and know that you cannot make a wrong decision here. Your loved one truly understands that love endures with or without physical, material tokens.

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      Lori P.posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I didn't even think of passing it on to the kids but that would be a sweet thing to do.

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      Penny Gposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I think having it redesigned using the stones and gold to recreate something the children would wear. It then would make a wonderful wedding gift to your child on their wedding day. It could be a necklace, earrings, cuff links, tie tack, a cross act.

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   brakel2posted 10 years ago

   I believe it makes more sense to give it to a daughter who will cherish it forever and then pass it on to a daughter or son. I own my mothers wedding rings. It is a personal decision, but I believe in cherishing values instead of burying them.

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   bethperryposted 10 years ago

   I don't have to even think on this one as he (just as me) wants to be cremated. So if he goes first, I will keep his wedding band until I pass. And then they pass on to the kids.

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   wychicposted 10 years ago

   It is definitely a personal decision -- I personally plan to keep mine. My husband wants to be cremated, and still hasn't decided whether he wants to be scattered at sea (he's a Navy veteran) or if I can plant a new tree with the ashes. Either way, there's no place or reason for me to give up the ring, so I'll keep it . It's just a plain band with our names and anniversary engraved inside it, but it means something to me...someone can melt it down after I die if they like. The only way I'd stop wearing it is if I remarry -- my husband is 27 years older than me, so we kind of assume he'll go first, and possibly while I'm still relatively young, so I suppose anything is possible.

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   DDEposted 10 years ago

   A difficult though but has to be made.  Who ever goes first will have to keep the ring in my case we will be  a burial not a cremation.

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