I live in a spiritual way.What if a closed one wants me to have fun with her for

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   rishworldposted 10 years ago

   I live in a spiritual way.What if a closed one wants me to have fun with her for a night?
   
   I am a 22 year old guy. I used to like having fun but after years of spiritual reading and practicing it, I just don't like to focus on pleasuring my senses. Although, I never force myself too hard. In the mentioned situation I am feeling like why I have to do this? Just for pleasure? But I also don't want to hurt her and I wanna make her happy because she deserves it.
   Concluding, I am neither enthusiastic nor reluctant. What to do?

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   It's (your) life! Take the wheel!
   You are responsible for (your) happiness! If you don't want to do something then don't do it. She will find another person who wants to do what she wants. This planet has over 7 billion people on it. Odds are there are lots of options for both of you.

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   junksellerposted 10 years ago

   I've always viewed our existence like we are drivers in cars. Our spirit is the driver and the vehicle is the machinery of our bodies. Where people can get into trouble is the relationship between the spirit and the body. Some people do not want their spiritual satisfaction to be attached to any satisfaction of the body. I can understand that, but at the same time, our bodies are amazing things, in and of themselves, and worthy of admiration. There's no reason not to take good care of them. There's no reason not to make sure they are finally tuned machines, and there's no harm in buffing the wheels once in a while. There's always value in doing something well, so if you are to do it, do it right.
   
   As for the lady, I'd say that if she cares about you as more than a toy, than what she deserves is the truth, not someone who is just going through the motions.

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   mrmathew1963posted 10 years ago

   G'day Rishworld
   
   I would like to ask you a question, is your lady friend a part of the spiritual process or life? Of course she is as of everything around us so enjoy.
   
   Everything is of the spiritual not just the things that seem spiritual because they make us feel good or they are of some ideological belief system we follow, everything spiritual which also includes your lady friend so experience.
   
   I'm 49 yrs old & I've been where you are because I was told this that & the other clash with being spiritual but how can it when everything is a part of the spiritual process/world? Use your own mode of thought or gut instinct not someone else's & you will spiritually flourish.
   
   Love
   Mathew

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   Jade89posted 10 years ago

   Do what is best for you. If you don't wanna do it, tell her so. It's your life, your body, your happiness. If you won't put YOU first - no one will.
   
   Question: "I live in a Spiritual way. What if a closed one wants me to have fun with her for a night?"
   My Answer: Then you tell her NO!

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