What is the greatest relationship advice you have ever received?

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   the1dannydposted 11 years ago

   What is the greatest relationship advice you have ever received?
   
   I am striving to find and pass along the best advice possible regarding relationships! I'm fully aware my advice may not be the best or perfect. Maybe you have heard something which could be of use to thousands of people. Please feel free to answer and share your advice so this world can benefit from your wisdom and experience!

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   Kathleen Cochranposted 11 years ago

   If he will hit you once, he will hit you again.  (Sorry to be so discouraging, but there are too many women who need to hear this one.)

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      the1dannydposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      This is a great answer and not at all discouraging. It is the truth and few care to admit it. Thank you for you answer Kathleen and I hope you are there with more helpful insights. If you care to follow me I'd enjoy hearing more on my future hubs etc

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   Become a "me expert" (before) you choose a mate for yourself.
   Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse. It's important to figure out what it is (you) want and need in a mate.
   If you go to the store to purchase an apple but buy an onion instead, whose fault is that? Do you curse the onion for not being an apple? No! You learn to become a better shopper!
   The number one cause for breakups and divorce is selecting the (wrong) mate for oneself.  Know yourself, Love yourself, and Trust yourself. The number two cause is getting together for the wrong reasons. (You reached a certain age, all your friends have someone).
   There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships; we either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have.
   Ultimately everyone is looking to be loved and accepted for who they are. If one of you needs to change your (core) being to make a relationship work then you have chosen the wrong mate for yourself.
   The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship as you do, (naturally agree) with you on how to obtain those things and last but not least have a (mutual) depth of love and desire for one another.
   "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
   - Oscar Wilde

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      the1dannydposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for answering. I agree, too many people don't have their own affairs and personal issues in order before they attempt a serious dating relationship. If you cared to follow my hubpages account I'd enjoy further feedback and insights!

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   misslong123posted 11 years ago

   To learn to not be so high maintenance. After one breakup after another, I did a poll with my exes and friends and such, and got that advice. So, I went to counseling and bought books and did a year's worth of research, studying, and practicing - in order to stop being high maintenance. And guess what? I'm not anymore! In fact, I just verified with my boyfriend and he concurred that I'm very independent and not high maintenance at all. I think all my hard work paid off, but it really was HARD WORK. I think finding out what your faults are and working to improve them really pays off! Hope that helps! Michele

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      the1dannydposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Michele, It takes courage to bear all and post something personal and I appreciate it. I'm working on posting hubs to give my advice and opinion on dating and relationships. If you'd like to follow me and read more I'd be honored!

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