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How can you make an 8000-mile apart relationship work?

  1. genrp profile image60
    genrpposted 4 years ago

    How can you make an 8000-mile apart relationship work?

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    dragonflycolorposted 4 years ago

    you take out the zeros in the relationship and it will work better.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    You must define what is "making a long distance relationship work." Do you mean it leads to a marriage or is it just a certain amount of time as in a year, two years, or three years...etc?

    The vast majority of couples in long distance relationships have no timeline or plan for when they will be together permanently. Long distance relationships were meant to be temporary. The goal is to be with the person you love. When there is no "count down" towards the day when one person moves it's likely one of you will eventually want to throw in the towel. It’s imperative to schedule regular visits if possible. No amount of phone calls, emails, text, Skype, or sporadic visits can cement a relationship in the same way as being together regularly.
    At some point someone has to make a move. A long distance relationship without “a light at the end of the tunnel” is likely to fail.
    (It’s the counting down the months, weeks, and days until you are finally done with the inconvenience of being in a long distance relationship that keeps it strong.)
    To sail a ship without a course or destination eventually gets old. The only reason for being in a long distance relationship is the belief she or he might be “the one”. If you’re just passing the time with someone you might as well do that locally.

  4. wychic profile image89
    wychicposted 4 years ago

    I have the same question -- apart for how long? I've been close friends with people who were permanently far away, but was only in a long-distance relationship for 6 months. That relationship started on the internet, and it was 6 months before he could come here in person. I know others who have done long-distance longer, but it sounds like they did a lot of the same things we did. Namely, we talked to each other daily on the phone or over the internet, kept each other up-to-date on what was going on in our lives, but then made sure to actually HAVE a life too. There were even times he told me he was getting off the phone so I could go out and spend time with friends because I needed to be around people smile. When I wasn't talking to him, I tried to think of topics we could discuss in areas of mutual interest such as in politics or history. Apparently we did something right -- we married soon after he moved here and have been together ever since.

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    cjaroszposted 4 years ago