Is jealousy healthy?

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   m abdullah javedposted 10 years ago

   Is jealousy healthy?

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   I doubt it. Most likely it elevates one's blood pressure as well as cause one's mate to feel (unsafe) within the confines of the relationship. No one wants to walk on egg shells around you.
   Generally speaking jealousy arises over one's insecurity or an act of "perceived disloyalty". Some people have it so bad if the witness their mate smile and say hello to someone they blow a gasket! Not many people want to date someone like that.
   Jealousy leads to "drama" and drama usually leads to breakups.

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   pattyflorenposted 10 years ago

   I have written about jealousy between siblings.  It is safe to say siblings do get jealous of other siblings.  Jealousy is an hidden emotion, brothers and sisters like to compete, and if their time together is competitive, then there will be some scrapes and hurt going to occur.  If siblings do certain productive activities together and they can handle their competitive spirit, this can develop healthy relationships, no matter the age and especially after 10 years old.   As children grow and their hormonal in-balances create new feelings, a part of that is jealousy, at least until those hormonal changes become second nature in their moods and feelings.

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   KL Kleinposted 10 years ago

   No.
   If you're jealous of someone, you're sending the signal that you do not trust them, and that you think they would cheat on you if they got a chance.
   
   Trust is the basis of any healthy relationship, and denying it to your partner will damage and potentially destroy the relationship.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Very true! It can also mean the person does not believe it's possible that anyone could truly love them enough to be loyal. Oftentimes they also make their current partner pay for the sins of their ex. Jealousy is a real turn off for mature folks

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   krillcoposted 10 years ago

   No. And here is why: jealousy is a clear and powerful symptom of relationship immaturity. It represents a level of emotional reactivity that indicates the individual is not at all ready to be in a long term relationship that will have any success. They key is to learn about interpersonal  reactivity and how to lower it, as well as development of intimacy (not just sex). Trust is not something that can be earned, it is an outcome of a high level of intimacy.

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   Daveadamposted 10 years ago

   I'll tell you exactly what jealousy is buddy, jealousy is a person directly telling their self that their a lazy person..If a person is jealous of another person, it's because they think they have what they want..I will guarantee that the jealous person won't actually even know what they really want themselves, but they see other people with things they think they want because they think those people are happy..So when & if a person feels jealous of another it's really because they "know" deep down inside, that their too lazy to find what they themselves really want deep down in their soul..Jealousy is sent by a person to their self to help them realise that they aren't doing what they really love doing, & they should start asking themselves what they really want to do with their life & to stop being lazy..We know the right way to live even if we say we don't, & because we know that deep down we remind ourselves with unwanted emotions & feelings..If we didn't we wouldn't learn or grow & move on to level two, & it's exactly the same with loneliness, sadness, depression, anger etc..All sent by us to us because we know we know better, & so we intentionally hurt ourselves until we learn..So it's unhealthy to have unless you learn from it, because jealousy is a figment of a persons identification with their egoic mind, & an egoic mind is very bad to have. :-)

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