If a girl is not jealous, does that mean she doesn't love you?

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   Wissam Qawasmehposted 9 years ago

   If a girl is not jealous, does that mean she doesn't love you?

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   
   
   No. It could mean she trusts you!
   More often than not jealousy is an irrational belief one has that tells them it's not possible the person they are with only wants them.
   Some folks get jealous if their mate smiles or has kind words to say to others. In some instances people have become jealous not because of anything (their mate did) but rather how other men or women are noticing them. Only a fool mistakes jealousy for love.
   Essentially if someone behaves jealous towards you it's the same as them saying: "I don't completely trust you."
   On the other hand if someone is not "into you" then they aren't going to concern themselves with what you do or with whom.
   Only you know what kind of relationship you have together.

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      Wissam Qawasmehposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      you're absolutely right, it could mean she trusts me, or she isn't into me
      the good thing that she cares about me, so it's likely trust me
      thank you so much, you gave me some relief

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   alexatomasposted 9 years ago

   Jealousy can be part of the usual feelings in a relationship. However, i dont think its related with love. I think it's related to trust and self insecurities. That is, if she is jealous, she probably thinks there is the possibility for you to cheat. This is either because she does not trust you and what you have, or she is insecure about herself and thinks other girls are prettier and therefore the obvious choice for you.
   
   So she might love you or not, but jealousy is not the way to tell. You might figure it out by the small things, like if she does for you things she would never do normally. That's a prove of love.

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Excellent point regarding "insecurities" of the individual causing them to be jealous. They're afraid they're not worthy of their mate on some level. Can't believe he only wants her.

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      Wissam Qawasmehposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      that's really helpful
      she actually does special things to me and cares
      thank you

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   Tusitala Tomposted 9 years ago

   Jealousness is based on insecurity which, in turn, comes from a poor self image.  If a man or woman feels that they could lose the person they feel and believe they are 'in love with,' it is the fear of losing someone they think 'belongs' to them.   Not so much a person with a will and mind of their own but an object or possession.    An exaggeration perhaps, but it comes close.
   
   On the other hand if you love a person, rather than being 'in love' - which always smacks of not feeling like a full person unless there is such a relationship - you wish them the freedom to be their own person.  You grant them the autonomy to which we're all entitled.
   
   Yes, trust comes into it.   But if your trust is broken you are not heart-broken.   Love is unconditional.  So you forgive...I mean really forgive, not say you do and then harbour life-long resentment which pops to the surface whenever the slightest argument occurs.   
   
   Being in love is an ego thing; a self-image need.  Loving comes from the real self - the Higher Self.
   
   Being 'in love' and being loved back is a wonderful thing; a memorable, life-changing experience.  Being in love and feeling that love is not returned can create enormous pain.   But moving from being in love to actually loving is far, far more important.

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      Wissam Qawasmehposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      While i was reading your comment i felt i'm reading a poem.  what you said is really effective, expressive, wise and meaningful.
      thank you that was really helpful

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